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Passing of Mila Oh (aka moh)

carswell May 26, 2010 12:08 PM

Mila Oh, force of nature, irrepressible chowhound (posting under the handle moh) and treasured friend, passed away yesterday evening. The cause was complications from breast cancer. She was sleeping at the time and her beloved husband was at her side. As can be gleaned from her few recent posts, she'd been in a bad way of late, and the knowledge that her suffering has ended is our only consolation.

One of the places her spirit lives on is in her Chowhound posts. Read and enjoy: www.chow.com/profile/89969?tag=highlight-5561592;post-content-5561592

What else to add? Only that Mila has already said what needs saying in her moving and, in hindsight, brave tribute to Sam Fujisaka. A few life details aside, she could well have been talking about herself.

"I've been unable to post since hearing the news. It's hard to know what to say, what could possibly be an appropriate tribute for a larger-than-life character whose personality shines like a giant beacon with every post?

"But then I was sitting with some good friends, ripping into fresh snow crab legs, dipping them in gobs of melted butter, chomping on fresh asparagus spears, more crab, the shells cracking open to release their glorious treasure, followed by swigs of the most lovely 15 year-old Alsatian riesling, laughing at the stories of my friend's children, and the mischief they had been up to. We are celebrating the return of spring. As the wine continues to pour, the stories get raunchier, someone breaks into the chorus of some old 1980's song, people join in. More bottles open, and people start to get a little maudlin, but that is ok too, anything goes. We are amongst good friends, good food and drink, can it get any better than this? And we create yet another happy memory that bonds us to each other.

"That is when I realized, Sam would not want some fancy formal memorial service, he would want a rip-roaring wake! He would want to leave this world on a rocket ship, not a hearse.

"Sam was a man who was so passionate about everything: food, drink, his scientific work, women, his children, life. It is his passion that draws us to him, and it is his wit, intelligence and engaging manner that makes us want to stay. He was never afraid to express his opinions, but was also willing to listen to opposing points of view. He was a man who was willing to try any kind of food, he had a quality of openness that is so rare to see. And he shared his love and passion for food with us through his posts, he was an incredibly generous soul.

"Sam had some of the strange hours I seem to keep, and he helped me through several tough nights, where he and I and others would create Tibetan Sand Art, posting odder and funnier and raunchier posts that were guaranteed to be moderated by morning. His posts made me laugh when nothing else could, and I am extremely grateful for those moments of laughter. His posts made me think, kept my mind active when I needed to be preoccupied. I could hear his 'voice', sense his presence when I read his posts. He always made me feel welcome and comfortable, even when we were debating some scientific point. And I feel like I've shared his table, eaten a mighty banquet with him, even though it was a virtual one. Thank you Sam, for sharing so many moments with me, with all of us. We are all richer for sharing your grand passion for life.

"So let it start! Laugh, cry, sing, open up a bunch of bottles, pile the food on the table! Let's celebrate the life of Sam Fujisaka, knowing he lived the equivalent of nine lives, and lived them all with passion laughter and love. I raise my glass!"
- http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/7014...

Please feel free to share your memories and stories of Mila/moh and your thoughts on her passing.

  1. c oliver May 26, 2010 12:20 PM

    What sad news. Yet, as you say, her suffering is over. Her tribute to Sam was so eloquent and you are so correct to use it to celebrate her life also. I hope they're having as much fun hanging out "there" as they did here. Just imagine the meals :)

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      mak2k May 26, 2010 12:38 PM

      sad news indeed. moh was my #1 resource for korean restaurant reviews in montreal and her incredibly harsh critics about the quality of kimchi in the restaurants. She will be missed.

      1. Davwud May 26, 2010 12:40 PM

        This is sad news indeed.

        We can't afford to lose these great fonts of wisdom from CH.

        I didn't read a lot of Moh's posts but she was an eloquent (as stated above) and knowledgeable woman without whom, this site will suffer.

        DT

        P.S. I hope she was able to hitch a ride on that rocketship.

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          C70 May 26, 2010 12:55 PM

          what a shame. I loved reading her. condolences to her family and friends.

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            tatamagouche May 28, 2010 11:57 AM

            Me too, and had noticed when I no longer saw her posts very often, which I suppose is explained by her illness.

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              Rubee May 29, 2010 04:06 PM

              Oh, this is such sad news. I felt like I "knew" her from the Home Cooking Board. She will be missed.

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            picklebird May 26, 2010 12:57 PM

            Oh, how sad I am to read this. I haven't been on chowhound much in the past few months. I don't know what led me to check the site today, but I didn't know moh was ill. I will miss her exuberance. What a good citizen she was. A few months after I moved to Montreal, she arranged a Jean Talon market trip. I met her only that one time but what a wonderful trip it was. She took me under her wing and let me in on all of her favorites.

            1. Passadumkeg May 26, 2010 01:40 PM

              As my sons live in Seoul and we have developed a fine appreciation of all things Korean, I loved to read and exchange Korean food info w/ her. We emailed a few times and then I noticed her absence on CH. Why do the good die young?

              1. hungryann May 26, 2010 01:42 PM

                I am so sorry to hear this. Although I did not know her personally and met her only once, I feel a loss. I loved reading her posts. Her perspective was always unique and it came through that she was a kind, genuine and humorous person. The Montreal chowhound board will never be the same.

                1. Gio May 26, 2010 01:52 PM

                  I'm speechless. Miserable, saddened and speechless. A month ago I had e-mail contact with Moh but noticed her absence from the boards long before that. We communcated here though, most notably the Home Cooking board. I gobbled up everything she so eloquently wrote. Now two Chowhound icons are gone. May she rest in Peace and feast on heavenly banquets.

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                    bakersdelight May 26, 2010 02:08 PM

                    that ain't fair. a major shortage of eminences grises is afoot. moh clearly knew what she was talking about and enjoyed a lot of respect around here. her profile names cuisine bangkok in the faubourg, a fave from my concordia days--thanks for reminding me, moh.

                  2. greedygirl May 26, 2010 02:09 PM

                    I met moh a couple of times when we were both on holiday in New York last Autumn. We shared a great burger on the Upper East Side and a memorable Thai meal in Queen's. Even though we'd never met before, she brought little gifts for us - a packet of tea and some delicious macaroons. She was a genuine and kind person, and incredibly humble. It was obvious that she wasn't well, but she bore her illness with humour and courage. She talked about coming to London some time, and I would have been pleased to show her the delights of my great city. Sadly that will never happen now.

                    It was a pleasure to meet you, moh, and I'll always remember our little adventure in Queens. You had a lousy sense of direction (yes, we went the wrong way on the FDR Driveway) - but a great sense of joie de vivre. I hope you're cooking up a storm with Sam somewhere.

                    And if you're reading this, Mr Moh, I'm very, very sorry for your loss. I still have some of the tea moh gave me - I'll be brewing a cup and thinking of your wife when I get home.

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                      Passadumkeg May 26, 2010 04:01 PM

                      Sob.

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                        MMRuth May 26, 2010 04:17 PM

                        Very nicely put.

                        I was fortunate to take greedygirl and Mila, and their partners, to my favorite hamburger place, and was sad that I wasn't able to join them at Sri in Queens. I still have some of that tea as well, and will make myself a cup in the morning.

                        I actually was thinking of her yesterday, and was about to email her for a fried chicken recipe that she very kindly typed up for me one time, and that I made for my family. I loved the fact that she rendered her own lard, and that she served the fried chicken with vintage Champagnes.

                        Here's the link to what she posted about the fried chicken:

                        http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/5091...

                        "Mr. Moh" - our thoughts are with you.

                      2. Seth Chadwick May 26, 2010 05:43 PM

                        It was with great sadness that I learned that Mila had passed away.

                        I got to know Mila and her husband back in 2008 when I was planning my honeymoon in Montreal. I emailed moh asking for some suggestions and we swapped emails before we left Phoenix to head to Montreal.

                        My husband and I got a chance to have a cup of wonderful hot chocolate in Montreal where we exchanged gifts of cheese and chocolate cake. Her husband joined us as well and they were gracious enough to invite us over for drinks and a snack before we headed to Lemeac for a lovely meal. It was our surprise to find that they opened up a delightful Spanish wine and made popovers for us.

                        Two or so months ago, Mila and her husband were in Phoenix visiting relatives and they met me for a Southwestern meal. I knew that Mila was not feeling at her peak and she mentioned that things were okay, but busy and she was "under the weather." We chatted about Phoenix and Montreal and had a wonderful time. Before we departed to go our separate ways, they asked me if I needed anything from Montreal and laughed when I begged them to send me some St. Hubert Poutine Sauce Mix packets.

                        The sauce packets arrived with a small back of chocolates and a note apologizing for the delay. I sent an email with thanks and did not hear anything back.

                        Last night, I was thinking about resending my thanks and checking in on her and her husband and added it to my "to do" list.

                        My husband and I are both shocked, saddened and very pensive about Mila's departure from this life. She was such a thoughtful, caring, loving person who I cherished as a friend and fellow Chowhound.

                        I am thankful I got the chance to meet Mila and will miss her dearly.

                        1. TheSnowpea May 26, 2010 05:47 PM

                          Awww man, I have tears in my eyes! This is devastating. I never met her, and it's my loss.

                          Such a lusty, eloquent, larger than life chowhounder. I was wondering why she was so quiet, but I'd put it down to the ebb and flow of posters here.

                          One of her last posts that I recall was about that doughnut shop in Eastman... now I REALLY must go and have one in her honour. Or a dozen.

                          Mila Oh, you will be missed. (could this be her? http://cme.mcgill.ca/php/hom.php?id=1111

                          )

                          EDIT: Our fave Korean foodie quoted here
                          http://www.financialpost.com/small-bu...

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                            picklebird May 27, 2010 04:42 AM

                            Indeed, that is her.

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                            buspirone May 26, 2010 06:02 PM

                            Mila and I have been affliated with the same large employer for years. And while we never met in person, I had always secretly hoped to meet her in person sometime so I could tell her how much I enjoyed her input in the Montreal boards. So now that we never will meet in the hallways, I would like to publically thank her for all I have learned from her and to convey my deepest sympathies to her family for their loss. She will be missed.

                            1. onceadaylily May 26, 2010 07:34 PM

                              There are certain voices that seem imbedded into Chowhound, much like a Greek chorus, rising over the dialogue with a solid knowledge, some judgement, and a familiar cadence. Her's was one.

                              My condolences to those who loved her.

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                                maisonbistro May 26, 2010 07:56 PM

                                RIP Mila Rest in Peace.

                                I am at a loss for words- something that never happened to you.

                                1. Caitlin McGrath May 26, 2010 08:22 PM

                                  I am very sorry to hear this. Moh's posts were often funny or self-deprecating (or both), but those flourishes were always in service of making a point about what she was posting about, which of course was food. I most often read her posts on Home Cooking, but I will always remember her posts about how full-to-bursting her fridge was, and with how many different kinds of cheese. I always wanted to visit her fridge!

                                  1. hala May 26, 2010 08:22 PM

                                    It is a very sad day in Montreal today. My thoughts are with her family and friends and the chowhounds that knew her.

                                    1. Chocolatine May 26, 2010 08:56 PM

                                      This bad news left me with a very heavy heart... what a great soul she was. I've met her only once, but will miss reading her. Ever since my discovery of CH, it was quickly clear to me she was one of the Mtl board pillars.
                                      My deepest sympathies go out to her husband and her family & friends. I sure hope there's good wine and great food where she is now...
                                      I still have so many places to try based on her recommendations and favorite spots!! I'm sure she made many of us discover our own city with new eyes. Thanks Moh!

                                      I'll be sure to grab a buttery croissant at Kouign Amman next time I go by this bakery, I know it was one of her favorites too.

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                                        moi May 26, 2010 10:00 PM

                                        Mila will be greatly missed in the ophthalmology community. She was a very skilled vitreoretinal surgeon who has helped many people regain their vision, both in Canada and in the US. Truly an impressive human being! (she was also an amazing ice hockey player!)

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                                          picklebird May 27, 2010 04:44 AM

                                          I love to hear this view of her life and her accomplishments. Thank you for sharing.

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                                            Maximilien May 27, 2010 06:56 AM

                                            She was the one you repaired Saku Koivu' eye a couple years back.

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                                              Miss Needle May 27, 2010 07:08 AM

                                              But more importantly, she broke the world record for Minesweeper! : )

                                              Too bad they didn't have a screen capture program back in those days to make it official.

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                                                Maximilien May 27, 2010 10:34 AM

                                                Haha! great!

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                                            TheSnowpea May 27, 2010 01:02 PM

                                            I found something written by Moh about her hockey playing and what it meant to her in her battle with breast cancer.
                                            http://teamup.tsn.ca/entry/2161725

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                                            soupkitten May 26, 2010 11:23 PM

                                            oh, Moh was always so bright, so humorous and lively. i knew her only from her posts, but her great spirit came across no matter how briefly she commented on subjects of interest to her. she had a knack for bringing a smile through humor (often with an outsider-looking-in perspective, like the best comic geniuses), and at the same time saying something so astute and true, that her words tend to endure and bring out the more thoughtful observations in others. i am so sad that we won't have her wry and passionate perspective here any more. my thoughts are with her family and friends.

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                                              Evilbanana11 May 27, 2010 04:41 AM

                                              RIP and my condolences to her loved ones. I really enjoyed her posts and will miss her dearly.

                                              1. linguafood May 27, 2010 04:53 AM

                                                Another great loss for the chowhound community. Shame on you, cancer.

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                                                  grayelf May 28, 2010 05:12 PM

                                                  Agreed, linguafood. I had no idea moh was so young. Thanks to TheSnowpea for posting the hockey essay -- I was reduced to tears by it, but in a good way, if that makes any sense.

                                                  Over on the BC board we had the chance to give moh some ideas about a recent trip to Vancouver -- check out her great reports. I'm even sadder now that she never finished them all:

                                                  http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/5925...

                                                2. Miss Needle May 27, 2010 05:09 AM

                                                  Even though we grew up thousands of miles away and our physical interactions were quite limited, I feel like Mila was like my long-lost sister. There are some people you meet where you feel like you've known them forever. Her husband laughed as we were sitting next to each other pinching and patting our faces -- apparently Mila and I shared the same assessment method to calculate how drunk we were! He kept saying how he thought we were separated at birth because we share quite a few of the same mannerisms and other eerie similarities. What a compliment -- if only I could be half the person Mila was!

                                                  I was always amazed by her -- her kindness, humor, optimism, generosity, modesty, endless energy. Mila was so thoughtful. She knew I loved Schwartz's brisket from Montreal. So imagine my joy and surprise when she hauled an entire brisket to my apartment -- that and countless other things that she did for me and so many others.

                                                  She was also as smart as a whip. DH called her the human encyclopedia as she was able to recite all this information off the top of her head about various wines. She had the knack for remembering every single detail about things. Quite a gifted young woman!

                                                  I've never told her this, but I remember sometimes being really tired and grumpy and felt like neglecting my obligations. Then I would think about Mila and everything she was going through -- that gave me the strength to complete my task. She is quite the source of inspiration. Even though she was ill, she undertook an enormous amount of responsibility and always managed to fit in a lot of of fun. She lived the lives of 10 women.

                                                  I feel so privileged to have gotten to know her. Mila is one unique woman that I will never forget. I will miss her.

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                                                    InterFoodie May 27, 2010 07:48 AM

                                                    I am sad to hear of the passing of MOH and my condolences to her family.

                                                    I did not know her beyond her postings but felt a connection to her as her posts always left me nodding my head in agreement.

                                                    Her critique on Bofinger and Romados and her preference for Coco Rico, to her taste for L’Express were just a few of the many posts that always left me thinking she was bang on.

                                                    Often I found myself noting her suggestions and recommendations. I bought the Hibiscus flowers at my fav place Marche Transatlantique and plan to eat at Jun I.

                                                    When I have the pleasure of doing both I will surely raise a toast to her.

                                                  2. Chris VR May 27, 2010 07:37 AM

                                                    This is a great loss for us all. We were blessed to have her be a part of our community and she will be greatly missed.

                                                    1. roxlet May 27, 2010 07:40 AM

                                                      I am now a little afraid to come to the Site Talk board knowing it is where bad news is posted. Rest in peace moh, and eat something truly heavenly.

                                                      1. rose water May 27, 2010 08:28 AM

                                                        such terrible news. moh had such a thoughtful, wise, warm presence. she will be very missed here.

                                                        1. NickMontreal May 27, 2010 10:37 AM

                                                          A very saddening loss. She was a great poster. Her comments were always spirited and insightful. Goodbye Moh.

                                                          1. chowser May 27, 2010 11:43 AM

                                                            So sad to read the news. She could be so eloquent and fit in with regular guys. Her tribute to Sam a case in point. And, could be said about her, paraphrased.

                                                            "So let it start! Laugh, cry, sing, open up a bunch of bottles, pile the food on the table! Let's celebrate the life of Mila/moh, knowing she lived the equivalent of nine lives, and lived them all with passion laughter and love. I raise my glass!"

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                                                              lagatta May 27, 2010 12:15 PM

                                                              Although I knew she was ill, like many admirers who were not intimates, I did not know how ill and that she had reached the end. This is terribly sad, and also a great loss so soon after Sam, who could be very similiar in their wit and zaniness (no, not only because they were both from East Asian backgrounds and professionals in life sciences fields). I usually found her recs spot on.

                                                              1. buttertart May 27, 2010 12:51 PM

                                                                I'm very sad to hear this. My condolences to the family.

                                                                1. Jacquilynne May 27, 2010 01:11 PM

                                                                  I always admired her wonderful posts -- whatever the subject, a moh post was bound to be thoughtful and interesting. Text doesn't always convey tone well, but you could tell just from reading her posts what a delightful person she was.

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                                                                    rcianci May 27, 2010 02:46 PM

                                                                    I am sad to hear this. My deepest condolences to her family. She was one of the people who made Chowhound great. A fine writer, her posts were full of her warmth and good humor. She will be missed.

                                                                    1. hannaone May 27, 2010 03:14 PM

                                                                      Moh was one of the first people to make me feel welcome on chowhound.
                                                                      I enjoyed her sense of humor, and the way her love of food and life was evident in what she wrote.
                                                                      I would love to see the table she and Sam are no doubt sharing now.

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                                                                        Daiya May 27, 2010 03:25 PM

                                                                        My thoughts are with her loved ones. She obviously touched many souls, here and elsewhere. I will take the knowledge and kindness she has given us, learn from her, and try to do the same for others.

                                                                        1. kattyeyes May 27, 2010 03:55 PM

                                                                          Dear Mila,

                                                                          Though I only knew you from a distance as a fellow friend of Sam's, I always enjoyed your posts and already miss you here. I fondly remember comparing notes on blue cheese with you last year.

                                                                          If only wishing made it so...the world needs more people like you and Sam, not fewer. I hope you are skating your @$$ off in heaven, no longer in pain, and knowing how much you are loved by this community! My heart goes out to your friends and family.

                                                                          1. porker May 27, 2010 04:08 PM

                                                                            My condolences to her family.
                                                                            I met moh only twice - once when she stopped in to say hi to a group of CHers at the original Qing Hua location, and another time at a Mexican street festival.

                                                                            I remember always thinking, for a small woman, she sure has a big smile.
                                                                            Although I had somewhat of an intuitive sense on the subject, I credit her for a my understanding of wok hai.
                                                                            I always looked forward to her posts and will miss her.

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                                                                              stak May 27, 2010 05:10 PM

                                                                              So sad to hear this terrible news. It's amazing how many lives moh touched through CH alone. She was a wise, thoughtful and funny presence on the boards - and had excellent taste. Her approval of a particular dish would always put it at the top of my "must-try" list. My thoughts are with her family and friends. She will be missed.

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                                                                                superbossmom May 27, 2010 05:35 PM

                                                                                I also am shocked and saddened by this news; her spirit and fun did come though her posts, she will be missed . RIP moh.

                                                                              2. kpzoo May 27, 2010 05:41 PM

                                                                                I've been just heartbroken since learning of Mila's death. It may sound like a cliché but Mila was really so full of life it's hard to imagine that she's gone.

                                                                                I don't think I've ever met anyone who loved food more than Mila. And I do mean all types of food - from fine cuisine to downscale chow - if it was done well, she always found something to love in it. Her passion for food, cooking and restaurants came through both on Chowhound - her Mile End bakery tour and passion for zeppole and Alphonso mangoes are legendary on the Quebec board - and in person.

                                                                                When I first learned who Mila was "in real life" I was astonished to discover that she happened to be the same ophthamologist my mother-in-law had raved about a few years earlier when she suddenly went blind in one eye. But Mila was so humble and low-key about her career as an eye surgeon, when I mentioned how impressed I was that she had operated on Montreal Canadiens team captain Saku Koivu, she barely mumbled a response, seemingly embarrassed.

                                                                                Although we only got together a few times, each time was memorable and fun. Some of my favourite moments were:

                                                                                - An incredible homemade Korean feast I had the privilege of taking part in. Mila and her parents (who were in from out of town) had cooked for days and there was so much food and so many people she wanted to share it with that she spread the buffet dinner over two days and had people over in two separate shifts. I will always remember the giant pillow on her couch shaped and designed to look like an eye, and the ophthamology magazines nestled next to Gourmet and Bon Appetit - a reflection of two of her passions.

                                                                                - A tour of the Jean-Talon market she generously organized for local hounds. She introduced me to some of the market's delights I'd never noticed before, from open-air grilled halloumi to fresh chips hot out of the fryer.

                                                                                - A dinner at Shahi Palace out in the boonies with several hounds, where Mila happily introduced us to one of her favourite Indian places. I'll always remember the look of delight on her face when I presented her with a selection of potato knishes I'd picked up from a bakery near me, as we'd been having a knish discussion on the Quebec board and she was curious to try some different kinds.

                                                                                I'm so grateful to Chowhound for allowing me to meet this one-of-a-kind woman and share some time with her. It is tragic that such a warm, talented, and exuberant person had her life ended way too soon.

                                                                                All my sympathies to her husband, family and friends. Rest in peace, Mila.

                                                                                1. superbossmom May 27, 2010 05:47 PM

                                                                                  Here's a gem from Moh, she was the voice of reason and I find what she wrote could be the board's mantra to tourists, she had a way with words !!

                                                                                  ""I would agree whole-heartedly with Superbossmom that the real city is all over Montreal. None of the suggestions here strike me as overly touristy, even old-Montreal. I recently had a discussion with a friend of mine who had friends coming to visit. He was bemoaning the fact that there is not a lot of obvious tourist attractions in Montreal, it is hard to pick out a bunch of must-sees for tourists here. We discussed the fact that Montreal is city which is about the vibe. It is a great walking city, especially in the spring when the entire city is reawakening from the great hibernation. So much energy and so much pleasure in the simple things of life, like a good cup of coffee and a lovely piece of pastry. You can walk around any of the neighbourhoods (even Old MOntreal) and see real people enjoying being alive, and there is something really special about this vibe. There might not be a "wow" moment on your walk, instead, you wander around slowly falling in love with the rhythm of the neighbourhood. Often, you think, "well, that is quite cool", or "Hmm, I've never noticed that little spot, looks like a nice place for brunch" or "what a cute little shop, I wonder what is inside?" Walking the the park and sitting on a patio feeling the warm rays of the sun on your head for the first time in 6 months, watching all the odd and beautiful people go by, well, there are worse ways to waste away an afternoon.

                                                                                  Just a word of warning, watch out for the dog poop. Perhaps all the rain this week will wash this all away. Be careful! It looks like chocolate, it is not!

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                                                                                    kattyeyes May 27, 2010 07:49 PM

                                                                                    Priceless. Thank you for sharing that, superbossmom, as it made me laugh out loud. And kpzoo, it is so good to learn more about our friend through her "real life" friends. Sending a big hug to all of you in Montreal.

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                                                                                      lynnlato Aug 3, 2010 04:15 PM

                                                                                      I love this. I have been wanting to plan a trip to Montreal and I will now do so with Mila in my thoughts. As many have said, she was oh so eloquent in her writing... a gem amongst us all.

                                                                                    2. Chemicalkinetics May 27, 2010 05:47 PM

                                                                                      A sad sad day. Moh and I had a few conversations, but I really don't know much about her. Still, it is sad to see two titans leaving us.

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                                                                                        bulavinaka May 27, 2010 06:06 PM

                                                                                        I only caught this sad news from poster honnaone's reference in Sam's thread. moh's posts would have me laughing, in awe, and nodding my head in gratitude for sharing her vast knowledge, wisdom and charm. I think she and Sam probably were running neck and neck on who the mods would tail the most. :) Once she would get rolling, nothing and no one could hold her back, short of deleting some of her real knee-slappers. I recall one time getting involved in a back-and-forth with her - one of the most humorous times I ever had on CH, and of course, we got so off-topic that the mods finally said, "enough is enough!" in their special way... She was spanking me silly!

                                                                                        I know moh figured out a way to catch a ride on that rocket ship - do any of us have any doubts?! I know I'm being redundant in saying that she will be missed - I will miss her - but like with Sam, it can't be said enough. :( My heart goes out to moh's husband and all of her other loved ones. With tears in my eyes and fondness in my heart, I will raise my glass to moh. Godspeed to you, friend.

                                                                                        1. maria lorraine May 27, 2010 07:01 PM

                                                                                          I feel like I was just punched in the stomach. I liked her so much -- the incredible detail in her posts, how informed she was about so many things, her search for peak culinary experiences.
                                                                                          Her posts were memorable and gave an inkling into the person who wrote them. Thanks for posting this, Carswell. I'm shocked to hear the news.

                                                                                          1. Chocolatine May 27, 2010 07:22 PM

                                                                                            Another side of our dearly missed Moh, posted on one of her friend's blog:
                                                                                            http://saideman.blogspot.com/2010/05/...

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                                                                                              bulavinaka May 27, 2010 08:53 PM

                                                                                              Thank you for posting this - I'll always keep that smile in mind - like the Cheshire Cat!

                                                                                            2. Veggo May 27, 2010 07:52 PM

                                                                                              A delightful mix of knowledge and humor we will miss. Sob. She told me once: "I'm beginning to feel there is some cachet to being deleted. After all, aren't the funniest, wittiest posts always the first to go? :)"

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                                                                                                bulavinaka May 27, 2010 08:55 PM

                                                                                                "I'm beginning to feel there is some cachet to being deleted. After all, aren't the funniest, wittiest posts always the first to go? :)"

                                                                                                I couldn't agree more - she wore this like a badge of honor. Her and Sam are probably arm-wrestling over who got deleted more... :)

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                                                                                                  Plateaumaman May 28, 2010 05:52 AM

                                                                                                  I read all her posts with great interest and looked forward to meeting her in person one day. Her enthusiasm for food was contagious and she was such a great writer. I will continue to read her posts and follow her discoveries. Perhaps we need a Chowhound selamatan in her honour? Is there a Korean equivalent? In my family we feast 40 days after someone has passed.

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                                                                                                    bulavinaka May 28, 2010 12:49 PM

                                                                                                    I've been raising my glass to Sam's memory. Last night, it was for Mila and Sam. This weekend would be a great time to fondly remember these two epic Hounds and feast in their honor.

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                                                                                                      Mandarine May 29, 2010 12:46 PM

                                                                                                      I second that! I know that Mila would want us to feast and drink in her honour!
                                                                                                      I have known Mila for many years and have always admired her zeal for life. She worked almost up till the last day before she went into hospital and recently won a prestigious teaching award at McGill. Such a tour de force. Someone who savoured each and every moment she had on this earth. I will miss you so much, Mila.

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                                                                                                        Plateaumaman May 30, 2010 01:13 PM

                                                                                                        In my family we have a feast 40 days after someone has passed. Some friends of mine say they do it 30 days. Does it make sense to try to organize something like that?

                                                                                                2. kpzoo May 28, 2010 08:12 AM

                                                                                                  Here is Mila's obituary in today's Montreal Gazette:

                                                                                                  http://www.legacy.com/can-montreal/Ob...

                                                                                                  There will be a memorial this Sunday, May 30, at 2 pm.

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                                                                                                    lagatta May 30, 2010 01:46 PM

                                                                                                    I hope there will be a fuller obituary in the McGill Faculty paper or a medical journal; she was one of the top eye docs around.

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                                                                                                    jcattles May 28, 2010 08:38 AM

                                                                                                    What sad news. My condolences go out to Moh's family. I sincerely hope that Moh & Sam are sharing a great meal on the other side and know how much those of us left behind miss them.

                                                                                                    1. ms. clicquot May 28, 2010 08:51 AM

                                                                                                      I am very saddened to hear of Mila's passing. Unfortunately I never met her but as a former Montrealer and frequent visitor, I often read her posts and enjoyed her humor, knowledge and passion. She was a remarkable woman and my condolences go out to her friends and family.

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                                                                                                        phoenikia May 28, 2010 09:49 AM

                                                                                                        Very sad news. I just heard about Mila's passing through some non-chowhounds last night, and I didn't realize that they were talking about moh until I read this thread.

                                                                                                        She was such an extraordinary, accomplished person. She has touched so many people. Condolences to her loved ones.

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                                                                                                          superbossmom May 28, 2010 10:28 AM

                                                                                                          thanks for posting the link to the Gazette obituary, I was able to put a smilng face to her
                                                                                                          name, I'm glad for that.

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                                                                                                          celfie May 28, 2010 10:41 AM

                                                                                                          I always tried to go to every restaurant she recommended. she was never wrong. my condolences to all those affected by this tragic loss.

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                                                                                                            Jasper1 May 28, 2010 12:33 PM

                                                                                                            This is so sad for Mila to pass away so young and in the prime of her life. Her writings and reviews on chowhound were always a delight to read. She will be missed tremendously...

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                                                                                                              JadeMyst May 28, 2010 02:19 PM

                                                                                                              Thx Carswell for setting up this thread.

                                                                                                              I'll miss reading her thoughts on food and restaurants and everytime I eat an alphonso mango, I'll think sweetly and fondly of her.

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                                                                                                                wilmagrace May 28, 2010 03:21 PM

                                                                                                                how many times i was sitting outside her office at the vic waiting to see one of the ophthmologists and intrigued by her name on the wall not realizing she was moh the spirited and knowledgable montreal foodie admired by all of us on this board. I always enjoyed reading her contributions and comments + learned so much about the city and world cuisines from her postings. And to think she made time for a wide range of interests beyond medical science from hockey and frisbee teamplaying to film, wines, writing, the art of cooking--amazing talent, generosity and altruism. I will miss her on chowhound. I feel sad for her shortened life and her suffering but what she packed into that life is truly remarkable as noted in articles posted earlier.
                                                                                                                My condolences to her family and friends, colleagues and patients on their loss .

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                                                                                                                roxymama May 28, 2010 06:10 PM

                                                                                                                I had the absolute privilege of living with Mila in university. While I never figured out what everything was in the fridge - murky bottles, and fragrant things wrapped in brown paper- I learned from her that it never hurts to have the rice cooker fired up, that a mouthful of a delectable indulgence is good for the soul, and that a meal shared with a friend is a feast. She once sent me cream puffs, all the way from Winnipeg to Halifax, because she heard I had some good news. I am so sad to hear she is gone and so happy that I had a tiny place in her big, passionate life.

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                                                                                                                  daimon4 May 29, 2010 12:14 AM

                                                                                                                  So very sad and sorry to hear this terrible news. Moh was the first to post a reply when I joined chowhound and her post was welcoming and sweet. It was a pleasure to read her comments over the years and I felt as though I knew her. She last replied to me on May 6th--it brings tears to my eyes to realize how close she was to passing. My deepest condolences to her family and friends--she will be missed and remembered.

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                                                                                                                    thomasein May 29, 2010 04:03 AM

                                                                                                                    My condolences to her family. She was an unforgettable person. Her joy will live on in so many of those whose lives she touched.

                                                                                                                    1. applehome May 29, 2010 06:56 AM

                                                                                                                      Moh was a wonderful, thoughtful and passionate poster - I will miss her thorough and well-reasoned approach.

                                                                                                                      1. im_nomad May 29, 2010 08:02 AM

                                                                                                                        So sad. Condolences.

                                                                                                                        1. LotusRapper May 29, 2010 11:59 AM

                                                                                                                          My condolences to Moh and her family, and to the CH-ers who've known her. Sad day. RIP.

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                                                                                                                            davyboy May 29, 2010 02:39 PM

                                                                                                                            I'll use a Yiddish word to express my feelings - farklempt, meaning choked up with sorrow. I had the pleasure of meeting Moh on 2 occasions, the first the same as Porker mentioned, at the original Qing Hua in April 2009 and then again at The Sparrow for a late brunch organized by Bigfellow on Labour Day last year. On both occasions her smile, intelligence and overall friendliness captivated everyone (and she knew all of our Chowhound handles). Her posts always were both funny and informative and were right spot on. My heart goes out to her husband Ken and all her family and friends. We all must support ongoing efforts to find a cure for this devastating disease which is claiming too many of our best, youngest and brightest. Support the Run for the Cure in Moh's name.
                                                                                                                            Rest in peace, Moh.
                                                                                                                            Davyboy

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                                                                                                                              carswell Jun 1, 2010 10:02 AM

                                                                                                                              «We all must support ongoing efforts to find a cure for this devastating disease which is claiming too many of our best, youngest and brightest. Support the Run for the Cure in Moh's name.»

                                                                                                                              Thanks for mentioning that, davyboy. Here's a link to Run for the Cure's Dr. Mila Oh Memorial Team page:
                                                                                                                              www.runforthecure.com/site/TR/Runfort...

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                                                                                                                                marblebag Jun 2, 2010 07:11 AM

                                                                                                                                signed!

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                                                                                                                                  Mandarine Jun 2, 2010 02:32 PM

                                                                                                                                  Thanks for the donation, Marblebag. Come join me for the run! CT

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                                                                                                                                    marblebag Jun 3, 2010 07:42 AM

                                                                                                                                    I'll have to check some organizations I volunteer for if there's a conflict then I'll come!

                                                                                                                                    ps: how do I contact people privately on this board?

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                                                                                                                                      The Chowhound Team Jun 3, 2010 08:44 AM

                                                                                                                                      To contact another member privately, you can see if they've included an email address or website in their profile, or you can include one in yours and ask the person to contact you off the boards.

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                                                                                                                                        Mandarine Jun 3, 2010 09:34 AM

                                                                                                                                        check out my profile

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                                                                                                                                    TheSnowpea Jun 2, 2010 10:52 AM

                                                                                                                                    Ok I've signed up to run 5 Km!

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                                                                                                                                      Mandarine Jun 2, 2010 02:32 PM

                                                                                                                                      Thanks, Carswell for passing this on. I'm thanking all the Chowhounders in advance for their contributions to the Run for the Cure. Hope to see a few more of them join the actual team for the run! Mila would be very impressed, I think!

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                                                                                                                                        lagatta Jun 2, 2010 08:17 PM

                                                                                                                                        This is wonderful. Remember that there are also bicycle rides against cancer - I met a young woman who was cycling Mtl-Québec last summer in honour of a dead parent - and more chowish activities could also be organised.

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                                                                                                                                          Mandarine Jun 3, 2010 09:37 AM

                                                                                                                                          We may rename our team for the Run for the Cure: MOHTOWN. So far, Mr. Moh gives it a thumbs up.
                                                                                                                                          We're also planning to set up an running/jogging group(Mohtown wannabees!) for Saturday mornings on the mountain starting on June 26, 8:30am, for a light jog/walk/run then downhill for brunch and/or Cafe Myriad coffee. In the true spirit of Mila!!!

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                                                                                                                                            TheSnowpea Jun 3, 2010 09:51 AM

                                                                                                                                            We look forward to having you join us!

                                                                                                                                            Go team MohTown!

                                                                                                                                            ~ Mandarine & Snowpea (yes, it's always about the food eh?)

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                                                                                                                                  naturelle May 29, 2010 03:24 PM

                                                                                                                                  Moh organized a tour of Jean Talon Market a couple of years ago, and what a treat that was to be in her presence. I absolutely agree that the Montreal Chowhound will never be the same. I'm really choked up.

                                                                                                                                  1. souschef May 30, 2010 05:25 AM

                                                                                                                                    I am deeply saddened to hear that moh has left us.

                                                                                                                                    I had the pleasure of meeting Mila just once, when she and her husband Ken joined me at Salon Passion 2008 - the chocolate show. It was wonderful to stop at the various booths sampling and sharing chocolate and macarons. I really enjoyed her comments on the stuff we tasted; she had a fine palate indeed. We left there with one hell of a sugar buzz! We were supposed to meet sometime for dinner, but, mea culpa, it did not happen. From stories here I would have loved to have seen her legendary appetite at work.

                                                                                                                                    When I first encountered her here, I realized that she and I both loved the same things, foie gras and marrons glacés to name a few; she was my marrons forager in Montreal. I then discovered that she even liked the things I did not; her love of food was all-encompassing, and with one heck of a passion.

                                                                                                                                    I always read her posts as they were so informative; she sure did know her wine. And she was a great food writer, even though she claimed the opposite, saying English was not her first language.

                                                                                                                                    Never one to be shy and retiring, she was quick to challenge stuff she did not agree with. I remember fondly one occasion when she challenged carswell about something, and another Chowhounder responded, "I hate it when Mummy and Daddy fight"; she and her husband got a laugh out of that. I sure hope that the powers that be where she is now have arranged for kimchi that is to her taste !

                                                                                                                                    As others have said, what better way to celebrate her life than to raise a glass in a toast to her; ensure that it is your finest wine.

                                                                                                                                    My condolences to her family.

                                                                                                                                    Wherever you are moh, Bon Appétit ! You are missed !

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                                                                                                                                      C70 May 30, 2010 10:04 AM

                                                                                                                                      ha, that was me with the Mommy/Daddy comment. I never met her, but I am glad to have given her a laugh or two.

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                                                                                                                                        maria lorraine May 30, 2010 01:46 PM

                                                                                                                                        http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/646778

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                                                                                                                                          souschef May 31, 2010 06:25 AM

                                                                                                                                          Is it fair to say that she left us all with a sad smile on our faces? I'm sad she's gone, but can't think of her without a smile. She always made me smile with her enthusiasm for food.

                                                                                                                                          Catch a ride on that rocket ship ? She was probably the pilot ! No dehydrated food for her, though !

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                                                                                                                                        pizzadough May 30, 2010 12:15 PM

                                                                                                                                        Chained to central NY today by a beeper, while my heart is in Montreal, I did the only thing that seemed right.... sit down with sushi and join chowhound in your honor Mila.

                                                                                                                                        Reading the postings on this site made me smile, cry, laugh, remember..... dinners, wine, ultimate, hockey... The core courses of medical school.

                                                                                                                                        Other classes junior or senior to us wondered why our class was so tight. How could it be that 30+ medical students (all were welcome) would go out to dinner at restaurants around montreal regularly... that we all were interested in hockey even if we had never been on skates in our life... ahhhh.... the answer was Mila. A tour de force, endlessly positive, fun, funky energy....

                                                                                                                                        Reading this blog made me shead years. I remembered a gathering at your house. A spontaneous pizza making, wine drinking, hanging out night when everyone brought their favorite topping. The question you raised was who would make the dough? I volunteered... as I had made pizza dough once... I think. Besides, armed with Joy of Cooking I was ready for the job. The dough was made and I walked 45 minutes across town with a tupperware bowl tucked in a bag. By the time I arrived the dough exploded out of the bowl, was engulfing the bag... to meet explosive laughter on arrival.

                                                                                                                                        To remember the first hockey game where our goal (as most of us had only been on figure skates if at all) was to stay on our feet. The next goal was to be so daring that we get a penalty! The goal of making a goal... I'm not sure if I remember that one. However, by the end of the season we had the best goalie as she had so much practice!
                                                                                                                                        For awhile, Mila, I thought the reason we all went to medical school was to play hockey.

                                                                                                                                        So much energy has left this world with you Mila... but you have left so much for all of us. I love reading the posts to this blog.. for they have read and shared the essence, the intelligence, the humor, the wackiness, the laughter, the spirit of Mila. You will be carried with us all.. in our heart, our palate, our joie de vie...

                                                                                                                                        with love to you, Ken, and your family,
                                                                                                                                        your, colleague, friend, center, and pizza dough maker

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                                                                                                                                          bulavinaka May 30, 2010 01:19 PM

                                                                                                                                          Pardon my ignorance, but I've always know Mila as, "moh." Now that I interchangeably call her Mila and moh, I want to make sure I'm toasting in her honor by pronouncing her name correctly. Is it, "mee-luh," or, "my-luh"? Thanks.

                                                                                                                                          And just so others know and maybe sharing the same experience, as I toast to moh and Sam, I've tried to explain to my family what these folks have meant to so many of us as I lead up to the toast. Sometimes they get it, and sometimes they don't. They know I spend more time than I should on Chowhound, but at the same time they know these "strangers" are important to me...

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                                                                                                                                            kpzoo May 30, 2010 03:27 PM

                                                                                                                                            It's Mee-luh.

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                                                                                                                                              bulavinaka May 30, 2010 06:12 PM

                                                                                                                                              Thank you so much - I can properly mention her name now!

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                                                                                                                                              grayelf May 30, 2010 04:50 PM

                                                                                                                                              It is hard to explain sometimes, isn't it? The night I heard about moh, I was suddenly overwhelmed with sadness and was sniffing away in the bedroom when the SO asked what was wrong. I said, "You're going to think I'm nuts, but one of the Chowhounds died and I'm just really sad." Sometimes you don't have to know someone personally to miss their presence when it is gone. The neat thing is that we have a trove of Mila-isms to read over so in a way she will be around for us as long as CH is.

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                                                                                                                                                hungryann May 31, 2010 10:26 AM

                                                                                                                                                I had the same response. I guess it goes to show what a presence she was on CH if even complete strangers are shedding tears for her.

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                                                                                                                                                  TheSnowpea May 31, 2010 06:25 PM

                                                                                                                                                  Me too: sniffling at my laptop and trying to explain to the hubs why I was dripping salt water into the keyboard. I loved how she would hunt down cooks in Chinese restaurant, trying to follow the wok hai experts from place to place. She really put Cuisine Szechuan on my gastronomic map.

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                                                                                                                                                Shattered May 30, 2010 06:04 PM

                                                                                                                                                My condolences to her family and friends.

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                                                                                                                                                  smtucker May 30, 2010 07:31 PM

                                                                                                                                                  Breast cancer is a nasty and sneaky disease. It doesn't care how much zest for life we have, it doesn't care if we haven't had time to have children yet, it doesn't care that we love street food or cloth napkins.

                                                                                                                                                  I am devastated to learn that moh has been taken by this insidious disease long before we were ready to have her leave us. She was always a great poster, full of enthusiasm, warmth and care. I will miss her posts immensely.

                                                                                                                                                  Sending her family my warmest thoughts...

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                                                                                                                                                    chilipepper May 30, 2010 08:54 PM

                                                                                                                                                    So awful *sniff* - condolences to her loved ones.
                                                                                                                                                    I'm glad I got a chance to meet her - I'll miss reading her always welcome, always interesting posts.

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                                                                                                                                                      Campofiorin May 31, 2010 07:54 AM

                                                                                                                                                      I didn't know her personnally but felt I somehow did through the Montreal board. She always struck me as passionnate and the more I read the more I realize she was an exceptionnal person. I will not cry as I'M assuming she'd like people to smile at the memories she left behind. But dammit, 41 is way too young to go. I'm 36 and it's scary.

                                                                                                                                                      Mila, I hop there's an endless buffet of marvelous food waiting for you somewhere.

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                                                                                                                                                      marblebag Jun 1, 2010 07:39 AM

                                                                                                                                                      I am so saddened by this. Moh gave me two tips that will stay with me forever: Fous Dessert and the joy of eating and living (or is it living and eating).

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                                                                                                                                                        bulavinaka Jun 1, 2010 12:06 PM

                                                                                                                                                        >>and the joy of eating and living (or is it living and eating).<<

                                                                                                                                                        Let's take joy in both - Dr. Mila obviously wrote out tons of prescriptions for us to follow! :)

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                                                                                                                                                          anachemia Aug 3, 2010 03:39 PM

                                                                                                                                                          I just heard the news and am so sad - my condolences to her family, friends, coworkers and patients. As a fellow Montreal chowhound, I got to chat with her last year at the Qing Hua chowdown and knew she had been ill, but didn't realize she had succumbed. :-(

                                                                                                                                                          I am deeply in her debt for so many of the tips and reco's she posted in the Montreal board over the years...

                                                                                                                                                          It's because of moh that I got to try Bouchées Gourmandes before they closed up shop, and thus enjoyed the most amazing hot chocolate EVER (not to mention their chaussons aux pommes and countless other goodies). Same for Oui & Oui, Fous Desserts, and tons of other places.

                                                                                                                                                          Maybe we should get a group together & make a Chowhound pilgrimage down to Eastman for some of those amazing doughnuts she recommended? I'm going to see if I can dig up that old post and find the details...

                                                                                                                                                          I also think we should lobby Fous Desserts to create a new pastry item in her honor, made with Alphonso mangoes...(half-kidding here, but it would be fitting, no?)

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                                                                                                                                                            souschef Aug 3, 2010 04:28 PM

                                                                                                                                                            Your Fous Desserts idea is great. Instead of a Tarte Tatin, how about a Tarte Mila aux Mangues?

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                                                                                                                                                          ken hunt Jun 2, 2010 07:22 AM

                                                                                                                                                          Hey Chowhounds,

                                                                                                                                                          “Mr. Moh” here. I just want to let you all know that I, and several of Mila’s closest friends, have been following this thread since it’s inception. And that it has been an additional comfort at this time. I have been surrounded by family and friends since she passed and the past week seems to have naturally turned into a celebration of a life well lived. The memorial service naturally saw many tears but also at least as many smiles and much laughter at stories recounted. I couldn’t tell you how many people said to me “I can’t believe no one mentioned the (fill in the blank)” But if we tried to recite all the funny, happy, touching stories with Mila at their centre we would be there still.

                                                                                                                                                          I also wanted to let you all know that while sadly there will be no more posts from Moh, Mila did (very sporadically) write a blog which she began after her diagnosis, three years ago. I have added the link to her profile page. I have been unable to remove the password protection we originally put on it, so the username is: mila and the password: alphonso – I intend to add the speeches given at her memorial within the next few days.

                                                                                                                                                          Finally, I would like to thank the chowhound community. Mila’s energy and resilience throughout her disease was a marvel, but there were many mornings during chemo and radiation treatments when she found it hard to get going. On these mornings, more often than not she would move slowly from the bed to the couch and pick up her laptop. It would take 10 or 20 or sometimes 30 minutes but then I would hear that giggle and then the clatter of keys and I knew her mood had lifted.

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                                                                                                                                                            hannaone Jun 2, 2010 08:49 AM

                                                                                                                                                            Ken,
                                                                                                                                                            Thank you for sharing the link to Mila's blog.
                                                                                                                                                            I just finished reading all the posts and just wanted to say that she was incredible.

                                                                                                                                                            You have my condolences and best wishes.

                                                                                                                                                            Gil

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                                                                                                                                                              ken hunt Jun 2, 2010 12:01 PM

                                                                                                                                                              Thank you Gil,

                                                                                                                                                              When I sat down here, I had just finished telling her brother about the ex-American G.I. on chowhound that knew even more about Korean food and culture than Mila did - over Dok guk and jang jorim prepared by her mother. I know she very much enjoyed the discussions that you two had.

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                                                                                                                                                                prasantrin Jun 2, 2010 09:05 PM

                                                                                                                                                                I came upon this thread by accident, and I am stunned. I didn't even know Mila was on CH.

                                                                                                                                                                I'm so sorry for your loss. I knew Mila many years ago at UofM (we were peer advisors together) and actually, I met you once or twice when you and Mila first started dating! I knew she had moved to Montreal, but that was the last I had heard of her. Many years later, I became acquainted with your niece and we found out we had Mila in common. J used to fill me in on Mila's comings and goings, and her obsession with food which seemed to equal mine. I didn't know about her love of food when I knew her, but I did know how open and generous she was. And she was so accomplished, as well.

                                                                                                                                                                My thoughts are with you and your family.

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                                                                                                                                                              chillywilly2 Jun 2, 2010 09:37 AM

                                                                                                                                                              Hello Mr. Moh, and let me say it has been comforting for us in Winnipeg who knew Mila to be able to read the posts to this thread.

                                                                                                                                                              My son, Campbell, was in Mila's class at St. John's-Ravenscourt School and they were both involved with Debate and Public Speaking at the Provincial and National levels. I got to know Mila as one of my son's school chums, but knew her much better during those tournaments which recruited myself and other parents as judges. My wife and I often commented on what a nice person she was, with an infectious smile and a background of current affairs knowledge which she could bring into competition to the delight of her teammates.

                                                                                                                                                              There were tears rolling down several cheeks this week among the staff at SJR who were there during Mila's years; she was loved by many.

                                                                                                                                                              Take care,

                                                                                                                                                              Bill Martin

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                                                                                                                                                                now_me_hungry Jun 10, 2010 11:02 AM

                                                                                                                                                                Dear Ken,

                                                                                                                                                                I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't know Moh personally but I loved reading all her chowhound posts on Montreal (actually used all of her advice when I visited Montreal for the first time last year and had some amazing meals because of her insight).

                                                                                                                                                                She will be missed greatly by the chowhound community.

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                                                                                                                                                                papilles Jun 2, 2010 11:40 AM

                                                                                                                                                                as I keep coming back to this site to read the warm and thoughtful posts, I discovered a
                                                                                                                                                                multi-faceted and multi-talented person behind the wonderful posts that I always looked
                                                                                                                                                                forward to and had been missing of late...
                                                                                                                                                                I only knew Moh, now I feel like I know Mila, it is nice to know that this outpouring of
                                                                                                                                                                affection is comforting to her family and friends...
                                                                                                                                                                her life was short but so rich, a lesson to us all

                                                                                                                                                                1. Cookiefiend Jun 2, 2010 12:36 PM

                                                                                                                                                                  oh my goodness...

                                                                                                                                                                  I'm so sorry to hear this! I will miss her humor and joy so much.

                                                                                                                                                                  She wrote this to me on the 'What ingredients make your heart go pitter pat?' post:

                                                                                                                                                                  "We could find you some very nice duck confit in Montreal! and fois! Also, wild chocolate covered blueberry season starts in August! Steal away my friend! We could feed you well..."

                                                                                                                                                                  I didn't make it to Montreal in time but I will always remember her and my next duck confit will be in her honor.

                                                                                                                                                                  Please accept my sympathies Mr Moh.
                                                                                                                                                                  Dawn

                                                                                                                                                                  1. mainsqueeze Jun 2, 2010 01:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                    I am very saddened to read this news and wish my condolences to Mila's husband, family, and friends. I knew her only on Chowhound but, like many others, have always appreciated her insightful and humorous posts, and will greatly miss her presence on the boards. I never would have doubted it based on my interactions with her online, but reading this thread has confirmed that she was a truly remarkable woman.

                                                                                                                                                                    1. souschef Jun 11, 2010 12:35 PM

                                                                                                                                                                      I just stumbled across a thread to which Mila contributed, and it had me in stitches, so I just had to post it here:

                                                                                                                                                                      http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/5661...

                                                                                                                                                                      In response to a suggestion that notecards would be a good hostess gift, this is what Mila had to say:

                                                                                                                                                                      "ACCCKKK! Notecards! Very traumatic experience, gave notecards as a gift once, and the poor hostess got a severe paper cut that resulted in pumping arterial blood, we had to rush her to the hospital, when we got back the roast had burnt to a crisp. Disaster!!!!

                                                                                                                                                                      (just joking! Actually, that sounds like a very nice idea for a hostess gift. Thanks for the great idea!)"

                                                                                                                                                                      And in response to the suggestion that a pet be given as a hostess gift, this is what she had to say:

                                                                                                                                                                      "Ooh Veggo! Puppies, bunnies and ponies! All good eating! But I draw the line at kittens. Too feral smelling, affects the taste of the stew....

                                                                                                                                                                      (GRIN)"

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                                                                                                                                                                        grayelf Jun 16, 2010 10:25 AM

                                                                                                                                                                        Thanks souschef for posting that "slice of moh" -- her humour was what attracted me to her posts perhaps even more than her obvious passion for and knowledge of food.

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                                                                                                                                                                          souschef Jun 16, 2010 12:03 PM

                                                                                                                                                                          And thank you for your note - I was beginning to wonder if it was inappropriate/misplaced to insert a humourous post into this thread.

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                                                                                                                                                                            Stephanie Wong Jun 16, 2010 07:56 PM

                                                                                                                                                                            It's always appropriate to celebrate someone's life. . .especially one cut too short, too soon.

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                                                                                                                                                                              grayelf Jun 16, 2010 10:46 PM

                                                                                                                                                                              You're most welcome. FWIW, I always try to picture what the person who is gone would think of what those left behind are saying and doing. I didn't know Miss Mila but my guess is she would be happy knowing we were all talking about the fun stuff she wrote and the pleasure that brought us all, while maintaining an appropriate sense of gravitas about the circumstances of her passing. Maybe that's just because that's how I'd want it to be after I'm gone...

                                                                                                                                                                      2. luckyfatima Jun 16, 2010 06:15 AM

                                                                                                                                                                        Terribly sorry to get this news. Prayers for her loved ones. I am glad she passed peacefully and that her suffering is ended.

                                                                                                                                                                        1. digga Jun 21, 2010 08:17 PM

                                                                                                                                                                          For crying out loud....How did I never cross paths with this woman?! Korean; hockey, food, and wine junkie; a practitioner of science (ironically, I am a cancer biologist by day); connections to Boston. I am determined to read all of her posts, but I am already getting an idea of the essense of MOH just by reading these posts.

                                                                                                                                                                          평화 자매에 있는 잠 (sister, a peaceful sleep...)

                                                                                                                                                                          1. Paulustrious Jul 9, 2010 05:05 AM

                                                                                                                                                                            Here is something that shows her sense of humour.

                                                                                                                                                                            Note: There is strong language here that may cause offense to some.

                                                                                                                                                                            http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYIWSV...

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                                                                                                                                                                              kattyeyes Jul 9, 2010 05:22 AM

                                                                                                                                                                              Ohmygod, Paul, thank you SO much for finding and sharing that. It is CLASSIC Mila!!!

                                                                                                                                                                            2. alkapal Jul 10, 2010 06:48 AM

                                                                                                                                                                              having been away for a while, when i saw this thread, i involuntarily uttered "OH NO!" out loud. what terrible news.

                                                                                                                                                                              moh always made me happy with her posts. i had no idea she was such an accomplished woman, in addition to being a smart, funny, kind and generous chowhound.

                                                                                                                                                                              my deep sympathies to her family. rest in peace, moh.

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                                                                                                                                                                                hungry_pangolin Aug 5, 2010 10:25 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                I've been on the boards very little of late, for a number of different reasons. Last night I checked in, and was surprised that an old posting of mine had been bumped up. It was bumped, because it had been linked to the thread on Sam Fujisaka's passing. "Oh, God, no," I thought. As I read through that, I then learned about our beloved Moh. That was just too much. Two great 'hounds, two great people. To Moh's family and friends, I have to say that the fact that a grown man is weeping over a woman whom he never met in the flesh is testament to her larger than life character.

                                                                                                                                                                                1. TheSnowpea Sep 19, 2010 08:58 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                  I'm excited to report that the Mohtown Run for the Cure team has gathered close to $10,000 in her name in the fight against breast cancer.

                                                                                                                                                                                  See our page, and consider giving to any member of the team or the team itself. You get a tax receipt via email. Every little bit helps, even if it's just a few bucks. Heck, we're giving whatfor to corporate teams! (I do hope this is not innapropriate to post this link, but I do want to show you what we are doing)

                                                                                                                                                                                  http://www.runforthecure.com/site/TR/...

                                                                                                                                                                                  We will be saluting Mila's irrepressible memory by running 5 kilometers on Sunday, October 3, at the Montreal run in Parc Maisonneuve. And then we'll have to hold a great meal to celebrate anew. Some team members met this weekend for a practice run and it was nice to hear more about Mila from someone who knew her personally.

                                                                                                                                                                                  Cheers,
                                                                                                                                                                                  Snowpea

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                                                                                                                                                                                    lagatta Sep 20, 2010 11:21 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                    Wonderful, snowpea and team! Brava!

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                                                                                                                                                                                      alkapal Sep 21, 2010 06:13 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                      they need a facebook "share" link on that site! it would really go viral.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        onceadaylily Sep 21, 2010 06:25 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                        Agreed.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          TheSnowpea Sep 21, 2010 07:31 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                          Well, if you have a FB page, please share the link above in your own posts. One team runner got over a 1000$ of donations just by doing that!

                                                                                                                                                                                          We're now above $10,000! Thank you to the Hounds who gave: I saw some familiar names in the list!

                                                                                                                                                                                    2. vvvindaloo Sep 27, 2010 08:23 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                      Oh, how terribly unfair. I am very sad, and at a loss for words, to hear this. Rest in peace, moh. You were, and will remain, a first class and all-time favorite CHer. I am sorry to be learning this so late- by now I've become more of an occasional lurker than a regular poster- but better to toast you later than never, I suppose. You will be missed.
                                                                                                                                                                                      V.

                                                                                                                                                                                      1. carswell Nov 22, 2010 04:48 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                        Over on the Quebec board, wilmagrace has posted a link to a sweet bio/remembrance that appeared in today's Globe and Mail (probably to coincide with Mila's 41st birthday, which would have been tomorrow). http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/f...

                                                                                                                                                                                        There's a Mila–Chowhound story I've been meaning to share. She and I often talked about the site – its discussions, policies and posters – and during one late night phone conversation, she came out with the best reply ever to an online detractor, a reply she unfortunately didn't have a chance to use. In this case, the detractor was someone who, whenever she posted a rave review of an Asian restaurant she'd eaten at, could be counted on to condescendingly tell her just how wrong she was. This had happened about five times and Mila had had enough. "The next time," she said, "I've got my reply ready: 'As a medical professional, I feel it is my duty to inform you that assholes don't have tastebuds.'"

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                                                                                                                                                                                          MMRuth Nov 22, 2010 04:54 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                          That is a wonderful, wonderful story! Thanks for sharing.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            onceadaylily Nov 22, 2010 04:56 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                            I wonder how many of us in the US will be replaying that line in our heads during Thanksgiving, with a secret smile.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              Gio Nov 22, 2010 05:19 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                              Oh what a terrific reply. Carve that in stone along with Sam's "[insert sideways grinning moron icon here to indicate humor]." How I miss both of them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                vvvindaloo Nov 22, 2010 08:27 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                hehe

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  goodhealthgourmet Nov 22, 2010 08:45 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                  carswell, thank you so much for posting the link - what a lovely glimpse into the life of a beloved Hound most of us weren't fortunate enough to know personally.

                                                                                                                                                                                                  that quote is terrific...and will come in handy the next time some egotistical yutz with a crappy palate tries to tell me what tastes good ;)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    hill food Nov 22, 2010 11:21 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                    oh, I just now heard/read about Moh, my deepest condolences to any family or friends that might see this. I ran into her in various places on CH and always appreciated the humor and passion in the posts. (and I love that quote carswell shared, both really, but will never have the nerve to use the one regarding where tastebuds are NOT located).

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      goodhealthgourmet Nov 23, 2010 01:22 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      not to worry, i have enough nerve for both of us ;)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    buttertart Nov 23, 2010 11:06 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                    Just great.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      chowser Nov 23, 2010 01:42 PM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      Classic. And, a class act.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    2. Passadumkeg Nov 23, 2010 01:49 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                      Today is Mila's birthday, according to FB.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        maj54us Feb 23, 2011 09:20 AM

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I just had a pinch in my heart when I read the news on another thread. Deepest condolences to the family. Her reviews and insight will be missed.

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