- a_and_w May 18, 2010 09:10 AM
Question to my fellow Chowhounds: what's the best way to deal with outrageous hyperbole? I'm talking about when people go out of their way to make provocative claims like the following:
What's the right way to respond to people who claim that a place you love is "[a] great place to take white people that are just getting comfortable with the idea of wontons"? That's a particularly egregious example, but it also sets my blood boiling when people claim that someplace I know is great is actually "terrible" based on a single visit and won't acknowledge the possibility of an off night. I think these posts represent the worst side of Chowhound, and they are quite common, unfortunately. How do I restrain my overwhelming impulse to flame these posters?
Get over it. That's how. I don't understand having an "overwhelming impulse to flame". Others can read the original post just as well as you can and make an intelligent decision about how to weigh the information. I don't understand how flaming anything is helpful. Do you think the rest of us are so dim we need your flame to see the ridiculousness of the statement you're flaming?
Thanks for the flame, lol.
Seriously, though, shouldn't members of a community like Chowhound stand up for its values? It's like the "broken windows" theory of policing. If no one condemns the act, it tacitly encourages more outrageous hyperbole. I'm sure we know certain other sites where such discourse is the norm. Do you really want Chowhound to become like them?
Hey, you asked. I'm not saying don't respond, but why do you have to respond with a "flame" (which was your question)? If you're idea of a flame is just a probing, even pointed inquiry, that's fine. But if your idea of a flame is an insulting, inflammatory remark, then I don't see how that helps. Like you note, it's all just going to get taken down anyway, and any nuggets of info associated with it will be lost. I don't see how that helps anyone.
Don't restrain yourself at all -- flame back by all means.
I have no problems with posters making outrageous claims -- it's what makes this board so great.
That said, when an outrageous statement is made, the OP should be prepared to defend it, and those posters who question the OP should not be attacked or questioned as being "clique-ish" when they do question (or "flame") the OP.
You spew fire, you better be prepared to fight return fire.
Amen, ipse. One problem, though, is that mods will often allow the original provocative post stand while erasing the replies. I realize they're trying to defuse things, but all that does is piss me off more.
Folks, we've already locked one thread on this topic, so we're going to lock this one, as well.