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May 7, 2010 11:58 AM

Potty-mouthed chefs in view of guests?

Dining out at a highly-acclaimed restaurant with an open kitchen last night and was struck by how vulgar the chef was! Cursing at his staff constantly, and not just the cooks in the kitchen. Am I just being too sensitive? What do you all think about this?

And to make it relevant to the Boston board, I've been to a fair number of open-kitchen restaurants in other major cities and have never been taken aback as much as I was here. What's up with Beantown? (or Camberville in this case)

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    1. It also happens in LA, at least based on a Curb Your Enthusiasm episode I once saw, LOL.

      Seriously, though--I very rarely see (or hear) this in Boston-area restaurants. I'd just go somewhere else, as there are plenty of places where this doesn't happen.

      1. At Shopsin's in NYC the customers may get cursed at

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        1. re: roro1831

          "customers may get cursed at"

          What? Well, that's not nice, unless it's part of the restaurant's schtick. How fun.

          There normally is quite a lot of cursing in restaurant kitchens but I think to be professional one has to carry onself in a professionall manner; cursing should be toned down in an open kitchen. I guess old habits die hard for some chefs.

          1. re: roro1831

            Remind me not to go there. I'd be too tempted to fling a glass of water in the offender's face.

            1. re: roro1831

              I was so happy when Kenny told me to go f*** myself, in his old Village location, before Trillin's article was published.

            2. Just to play devil's advocate: why is a chef cursing at his staff such a big deal? They're just words, right? I suppose if there were young children around, parents may not want them to be exposed to such words, but kids at "highly-acclaimed restaurant"s are probably few and far between.

              Anyhow, all chefs I know have trash mouths.

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              1. re: invinotheresverde

                So do I, but I find it uncomfortable to overhear. The verbal abuse part is the worst part of it. I don't know how chefs have managed to be expected to be abusive to their staffs, anyway. It's like listening to a narcissistic adult temper tantrum. Spare me.

                1. re: EWSflash

                  I think it's interesting to see how quickly the use of vulgarity is interpreted as abuse. I'd like to think of these in different ways. Namely, if it's just vulgar language, I don't mind at all, In fact, I really enjoy some top swearing and anything that is particularly creative will potentially enhance my experience. But if I am forced to witness abuse and workers berating one another, my feelings change.

                  1. re: Lizard

                    yes if you hear the chef in conversation with a line cook and it's 'yadayadayad that is so f***ing funny' then that might be ok.

                    But any boss berating staff in front of customers, clients or patients is not a laughing matter. Irritation is one thing but to belittle and scold when done in public is unacceptable. Now would someone please tell my boss these are the finer points of management.

                    1. re: Lizard

                      +1. An employers can be incredibly demeaning and abusive without ever getting close to George Carlin's "seven dirty words." On the other hand, a chef can drop the f-bomb in every single sentence without being abusive.

                      1. re: Lizard

                        'yadayadayad that is so f***ing funny'
                        wouldn't run up any alarms occasionally, although gee whiz, TRY to watch your mouth, anyway. But if you read "Kitchen Confidential" or ever watched Gordon Ramsey do anything, you know what I'm talking about. Gutter language and verbal abuse go hand in hand, especially in a restaurant kitchen.

                        In the absence of verbal abuse, read through a few of these posts and substitute loud flatulence for cursing, and you might get a better idea of how I feel. And flatulence is funnier than a garbage mouth, usually, maybe not so much in a restaurant.

                        1. re: Lizard

                          OP said "cursing at his staff". That's verbal abuse in my book.

                          1. re: PeterL

                            I dunno. "Don't take that plate until I've finished the f**king garnish" certainly constitutes cursing at the staff, and is undoubtedly vulgar, but I'm not sure it rises to the level of abuse. On the other hand, "you moron, anyone who's even marginally competent should be able to see that plate isn't ready to go out" is not vulgar, but it's certainly abusive.

                            1. re: PeterL

                              I'm with you on this. Cursing or not, i don't like to see bosses get attitude with the staff in front of customers. It think it's unprofessional. Take care of your issues away from customers, please.

                        2. re: invinotheresverde

                          Because I go out to dinner to have a good time. I know they have trashy mouths, but I don't want to hear them when I am out trying to have a good time.

                          1. re: invinotheresverde

                            Because I am out trying to have a good time at a restaurant. To witness verbal abuse is not my idea of a good time.

                            1. re: PeterL

                              Swearing and verbal abuse aren't synonyms.

                              1. re: invinotheresverde

                                OP said "cursing at his staff". That's verbal abuse.

                          2. I always wondered how Ramsay gets away with it on TV, not only on Hell's Kitchen but also on Kitchen NIghtmares.

                            I would not like my dinner interspersed with swearing from the kitchen.

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                            1. re: smartie

                              ...not from the kitchen...not from a neighboring table...