HOME > Chowhound > San Diego >
What's your latest food quest? Share your adventure

Best Restaurant For a Proposal (Lunch or Dinner)

mjsp1 Apr 9, 2010 10:50 AM

What place would just be the ultimate restaurant in terms of food, service, ambiance etc in all of San Diego that would be just the perfect place for a proposal?
either for a nice sunny daytime proposal or at night.

  1. Upload a photo (10 MB limit)
  1. Josh Apr 9, 2010 12:12 PM

    I've always heard the Sky Room at La Valencia is given top marks for that.

    1. honkman Apr 9, 2010 12:20 PM

      I never understood the appeal to propose in a restaurant with many people around you never met before. A restaurant is one of the least romantic place to propose, IMO. I personally would look for something more unique and private.

      4 Replies
      1. re: honkman
        RB Hound Apr 9, 2010 01:03 PM

        Thus why Josh has heard that about the Sky Room, honkman - more private than even your quieter San Diego restaurants. But yeah, I don't get it either - I guess that's the sort of thing that I like to do in private - which is why it took almost an hour for the beach to clear enough for my liking. :)

        1. re: RB Hound
          honkman Apr 9, 2010 01:12 PM

          I know the Sky Room is more private than other restaurants but still not something I would call "private" for such an occasion. In addition, when we looked for places for our wedding we ate at La Valencia and were absolutly not impressed by the food. (And yes I know that the Sky Room is a separate restaurant than other parts of La Valencia but the food was so mediocre that I have serious doubt that any kitchen there can do outstanding food).

        2. re: honkman
          Fake Name Apr 9, 2010 02:38 PM

          Unless the restaurant was/is important to your relationship. Like your first date that was spectacular, numerous long delicious dinners, many friends meeting at the bar, spontaneous "meet me" dinners or lunches, a familiar staff.

          Then it becomes the logical and "right" place.

          1. re: honkman
            SeanT Apr 13, 2010 02:41 PM

            I should have attached my reply to your post. See my reply further down in the thread for why one might not want to propose in a restaurant. Poor butter sizzling steaks, it wasn't their fault.

          2. n
            normalheightsfoodie Apr 9, 2010 01:23 PM

            The patio at Mr. A's can be extremely romantic. I am sure if you give them the 411, they can make it extra special for you.


            1 Reply
            1. re: normalheightsfoodie
              honkman Apr 9, 2010 01:58 PM

              Congradulations. - He/She still can say "NO" ;)

            2. b
              Beach Chick Apr 10, 2010 06:37 AM

              I would say the back patio of La V..get the corner table, let the staff know whats up..have the champagne ready and the Iranian caviar all set..
              Addison at Grand Del Mar and get a suite for the weekend and enjoy the resort.
              Grant Grill at the US Grant Hotel in the Gaslamp..they have killer deals on rooms for $150 and its a lovely 5* stately hotel.

              3 Replies
              1. re: Beach Chick
                SDGourmand Apr 10, 2010 09:48 AM

                I agree with Addison. I think that would be the best way to do it.

                1. re: Beach Chick
                  Indirect Heat Apr 10, 2010 05:33 PM

                  Third for Addison. Nicest place in the city. Nice ambience, very good food.

                  1. re: Indirect Heat
                    daantaat Apr 10, 2010 09:15 PM

                    4th for Addison.

                2. Dagney Apr 10, 2010 10:37 PM


                  1 Reply
                  1. re: Dagney
                    SDGourmand Apr 11, 2010 06:38 AM

                    Also if you stay at the resort they will drive you up to addison in a mercedes. Nice little touch that they do and would make the proposal that much more special. Ask if they would set up a special table on the balcony looking at the golf course. Nothing is going to beat it in san diego.

                  2. t
                    TXGSD Apr 11, 2010 02:20 PM

                    I'm assuming the original poster came for ideas about what restaurant to propose at, not for a critique of his/her decision of where to propose. That said, plenty of great marriages have started out with a restuarant proposal and I've yet to have anyone tell me that proposing or being proposed to in a restuarant was a mistake. Go where you want, where it will be memorable for both of you and I don't think I'd look here for advice on romance. Addison is rightly a clear favorite for top notch service, food, etc. Alternatively, for nice walks on the beach before or after the big event, 1500 Ocean at the Hotel del, La Valenica or Marine Room in La Jolla or Kitchen 1540 at L'Auberge in Del Mar are all nice (Kitchen 1540 has some quiet spots outside by their herb garden which would be a nice spot for a proposal). With the exception of the Marine Room, all of the other restaurants are at hotels if you want to turn your dinner into a engagement vacation. Good luck and enjoy the big day.

                    Marine Room Restaurant
                    2000 Spindrift Drive, La Jolla, CA 92037

                    1500 Ocean
                    1500 Orange Avenue, Coronado, CA 92118

                    2 Replies
                    1. re: TXGSD
                      littlestevie Apr 12, 2010 03:07 PM

                      You might be able to swing a room at LJBTC which is part of the Marine Room property.

                      Marine Room Restaurant
                      2000 Spindrift Drive, La Jolla, CA 92037

                      1. re: TXGSD
                        souschef Apr 20, 2010 02:13 PM

                        You could always get a cabana at Kitchen 1540. Nice and private.

                      2. d
                        DougOLis Apr 12, 2010 09:28 AM

                        If you take her to Addison, is she going to know something is up? Do you want there to be an element of surprise to it?

                        1. s
                          SeanT Apr 13, 2010 02:38 PM

                          Don't go to Ruth's Chris Del Mar. I watched a guy get shutdown on his proposal after having the waiter deliver the ring in a fancy box. It was brutal and there was some serious awkwardness. Did I mention the ring was delivered after the salad and before the steaks. Sure enough mid awkward stream the sizzling in butter steaks roll up and.... Steak gone bad

                          5 Replies
                          1. re: SeanT
                            Josh Apr 13, 2010 05:14 PM

                            Wow, horrible. I would hate to have witnessed that.

                            1. re: Josh
                              The Office Goat Apr 13, 2010 05:33 PM

                              What was it Bart said to Lisa about Milhouse? "Look, if you slow down the tape, you can actually see the moment his heart breaks!"

                              1. re: The Office Goat
                                JRSD Apr 13, 2010 05:55 PM

                                Isnt that about Ralph Wiggum when she gives him the valentine and then takes her to the Krusty Live Special?

                                1. re: JRSD
                                  Beach Chick Apr 13, 2010 06:01 PM

                                  Krusty..he's rock star status in my playbook..

                            2. re: SeanT
                              Fake Name Apr 15, 2010 06:05 AM


                              Yes, it would be a good idea to be either confident of acceptance or not too attached to an answer that's not "yes". Especially if there is good food involved- it simply not worth the risk of losing a good meal.

                              And please, do nothing "cute" like put the ring in the champagne, the dessert, have the waiter deliver the ring, make a "treasure hunt" out of it, get down on one knee in public, have a marching band play music, etc to call attention to yourself and your intended. Then you'll ruin MY meal.

                            3. liza.calderon Apr 16, 2010 05:12 PM

                              I have always had a soft spot in my heart for Trattoria Acqua in La Jolla. If it's not a busy Saturday night, the place can be very intimate. You can propose there or go for a walk down by the cove and find a quiet little spot on the rocks or covered bench to ask her privately. Good luck!

                              Trattoria Acqua
                              1298 Prospect St., La Jolla, CA 92037

                              Show Hidden Posts