ISO a very quiet bar
An old friend is coming to SF just a few weeks before her wedding. I hesitate to call this her wedding shower/bachelorette weekend, because this lady just likes things low key. Her #1 request was that she be in bed by 11pm each night (and I only think she's half kidding). For her weekend, we have planned the Academy of Sciences, tea at Crown and Crumpet, the symphony, and we're moving on to deciding on dinner and drink locations. I have several restaurant in mind, so no help needed there.
But I'm kind of blanking on quiet bars where four girls can sit and chat after dinner. She likes wine and a nicely made cocktail, but is not an avid foodie by any stretch. I think she'd really get a kick out of places with more of a vibe that she can't get in sterile La Jolla, CA. She is quite an artist and enjoys all things with a dark but beautiful aesthetic:, or just plain cute.
Bourbon and Branch--always my neighborhood fall back
Hotel Biron--I think she'd like the vibe, but it does sometimes get really packed
Orbit Room--I hear great things, but still have never been. How noisy and crowded does it get on Fridays and Saturdays? And it's hardly dark and beautiful.
Elixir--again, hear good things but have never been
We do want some place where we'll be able to talk. Perhaps a less obvious choice, like a good hotel bar? Maybe she'd like the Top of the Mark. Not dark, but charmingly old school.
Try the Big Four. It has an old school vibe (although it's not that old), dark wood, comfy space.
1075 California Street, San Francisco, CA 94108
Jardinere (they're comfortable on the late side and have these nice "flights" of various liquors - I haven't been since the "j lounge" has been introduced)
Top of the mark's not a bad call
Why not just go to a restaurant that closes late with a good quiet vibe - I'm fond of The Globe; they've got some booths and a deceptively good bar.
If you're moving locations just because a change of scene is good, giving us the exact location is helpful.
Top of the Mark is a good pick until the band starts playing. Then it turns into a dance floor and is not a quiet place for a drink. Depending on the day of the week, the band starts playing anywhere from 6:30 to 9:00 pm. When I was there a few weeks ago on a Saturday night, there was a $20 cover charge and a short line (6 people) to get in. Seemed to be popular with ballroom dancers who looked like they go on a regular basis.
Le Colonial might work too. They have a bar and lounge area with lots of good spots to have a conversation. I have been there when they had a jazz combo playing live and it wasn't too overpowering.
Also, across the way is a nice & quiet wine bar called Hidden Vine.
620 Post St, San Francisco, CA 94109
Le Colonial SF
20 Cosmo Place, San Francisco, CA 94109
15 Romolo is usually quiet.
So is the bar at Fifth Floor.
Fifth Floor Restaurant
12 Fourth St., San Francisco, CA 94103
15 Romolo Pl, San Francisco, CA 94133