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Dec 1, 2009 01:24 PM

Help with post re wine aficionado take on bringing wine to someone's home

I started a topic, on the Not About Food Board, after reading an article in the latest issue of Food & Wine magazine. The writer seemed to be seriously pushing the idea that wines brought to someones home SHOULD be opened by the host for the enjoyment of all. As this is not what I've ever thought was the proper etiquette, or what I believe has been the consensus here on this subject, I wanted to know if people thought the writer was kidding, or if the rules were different for wine aficionados.

Most of the responses I got were a re-hash of the general discussion about opening or not opening a a wine gift. What I was looking for was something more specific to the magazine article itself and the expectations of a wine-centric group.

Please go to this post, if you will, as the Chowhound Team has told me etiquette discussion is for the Not About Food Board. Thanks.

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  1. Without having read the article it's hard to discuss more specific to the article itself. Is there a link?

    That said, if I was going to an event where there would be an wine-centric group I would like my wine opened and shared at the event. Much of the pleasure of wine is sharing it with other people that "get it" or are likely to appreciate a wine.

    If I brought a nice wine to a party where most people were going to be drinking hard liquor and the drinking was merely to get intoxicated and have a good time then I would not want the wine opened and I would let the host know they should enjoy the wine on another occassion.

    1. Here's the link:

      I have some recollection that Lettie Teague is the subject of some mixed feelings, but I can't recall any specifics. She appears to be making the case that this protocol is appropriate for ANY party. I was just asking if she sees it that way because she's a wine writer.

      I'll post the Iink on the NAF board too as this topic was requested by the Chowteam as a way to get Wine board help there.

      1. It would be the height of audacity to expect it to be poured without a previous conversation with the host as to what was being served and an agreement with the host as to what to bring in order to accompany what was being served.

        3 Replies
        1. re: JAB

          SO.................. take a minute to read the article. Then tell me if you think she's out of line or this is a tongue-in-cheek piece about how wine geeks strategize to be able to be able to drink the wine they bring to parties.

          1. re: Midlife

            I don't think that the article is tongue - in - cheek. It seems to relate a gamut of experiences in regard to bringing wine to a party. However, I do believe that conventional manners / etiquette rains supreme. It's a gift to do with as the host so desires.

            Of cource you would gift a wine that you enjoy in hope that the host(s) will enjoy it as well whether that evening or at their liesure. To ensure that you'll be able to taste the gifted wine, buy two. Gift one and keep the other. As a guest, manners / etiquette dictate that you "suck it up" and put on your best face in regard to what the host(s) serve.

            1. re: JAB

              As I said below, I really now think the article is primarily about how wine geeks will figure a strategy to be sure the wine the bring gets opened. Not that they are necessarily ignoring or disagreeing with the etiquette, more like working the angles around it where they can. Or..................... not bringing something too precious if they don't feel comfortable leaving it for the host. I totally get that.

        2. I think JAB is spot on. I also like what Scott M says, but I would still find out ahead of time if the host was planning to open the wine I was bringing, even at a wine-centric gathering. When going to a wine tasting party where all wines brought will be opened, and you don't know the knowledge/appreciation level of the other guests, I always say bring a wine you like. Then you know at least one person at the party will like the wine. :-)

          1. I read the article and I think it's about the desire to have one's wine opened so it might possibly turn someone else on to what you've discovered and enjoy and understanding that it doesn't always work out that way for a variety of reasons both understandable and not so.