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Aug 18, 2009 07:03 PM


Then the next time the same meat with the same dose of extra salt. How do you approach that

If it is a close friend or close relative would you say something

I guess most people would just eat it the second time or maybe just eat the salad and indicate not feeling well in order not to eat the meat again.

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  1. Ya that's a tough one. You really want to make sure you've got a filled water glass or you'll be over-quaffing the wine. (If that's a problem.) Helping yourself to the smallest piece next time would help. If the sides aren't oversalted you can just fork in each mouthful piled up w/ potatoes and veg. I never say anything b/c it's the hospitality I appreciate. I used to tell my mother when she over-salted. But you know the limits of the relationship here so can better judge.

    1. 1) Lie.

      Use the old Doctor's-Orders low-salt-or-I'll-die-young manoeuvre.

      2) Truth (ish)

      I use far less salt and I guess I'm just extra-sensitiv. I can't tolerate that much salt; to me it overpowers the excellent flavour of the meat.

      (as a complete aside, I can think of at least 10 verbs meaning to lie, I couldn't think of one that means to tell the truth.)

      1. You know the depth and the sensitivity of the relationship far better than we ever can. If at all possible tell the person, if for no other reason that the health aspects of overly salty food. It's possible s/he has a lack of salty identifying tastebuds and simply doesn't recogninze that it's too much.

        Invite them to your house and serve properly salted/spiced food and don't put salt on the table.

        1. Eat a small serving, don't say anything. Even with close friends, I will never make any sort of negative comment about the food unless SPECIFICALLY asked. I have one friend who is a fastidious cook and does ask for feedback - which I give him. But with almost everyone else, I say thank you it was absolutely delicious. When it comes to salt, I find that there is a VERY wide range of tolerance. I happen to like salt and maybe to some people my food is oversalted, but I'm pretty sure it's well within reasonable limits.

          5 Replies
          1. re: Nyleve

            this is more an etiquette question than a food question. You do whatever causes the least harm to yourself and the host. can you offer to bring an entree the next time you get an invitation?

            1. re: lucyis

              Not unless that kind of offer is common in your circle. Normally, except for potlucks, in classic American etiquette it would be seriously risking an implication by a guest that the host cannot provide sufficient hospitality.

            2. re: Nyleve

              I'm surprised at how many people are advocating lying. I would definitely want to know if there was something wrong with the food I was serving, as I want my guests to enjoy themselves; if they're not, I'd like to be made aware of the situation so that I can improve my cooking to ensure that they will enjoy themselves in the future. There are gentle and diplomatic ways to handle this from the guest's end.

              1. re: vorpal

                exactly - there are ways to be honest without saying "wtf, you suck as a cook"

                1. re: thew

                  Not always. Sometimes you just have to lie. Or, if not exactly lie, then just change the subject. Oh come on people, there are some people who will NEVER be better cooks. Never. So what do you want to do? Give up the relationship? Some folks don't take criticism well - so just tell them it was delicious and then change the subject.

            3. I think I would add salt to it and eat it down...

              ...just to see what would happen the third time ;)