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Jul 30, 2009 08:24 AM

Do you pick up the steak bone in a restaurant.


There was discussion about grilling steak in another thread. Chef of a fancy restaurant showed a "frenched" (highly trimmed) rib steak to show technique for grilling. This prep removes a portion of meat and fat from the bone. I love the meat closest to the bone. I like to pick up the bone and chew the meat off on a good steak such as rib or porterhouse. I have a friend who likes to chomp, but, will take the bone home to do it in private. What will the hound survey show? Are you fans of eating like a hound, even in an upscale restaurant? Am I just a low class slob when it comes to this.

  1. I do pick up the bone. Maybe I am shameless, though. You're probably not supposed to, but it tastes so good, so I don't really care.

    1. Picking up a steak bone in an upscale restaurant? No - never. Unthinkable. At home I'll pick it up, but only to hand it to my wife who's much more of a bone gnawer than I am.

      That said, there are some "on the bone" items that can be eaten by hand in public, like fried chicken, most sorts of chicken wings, and (in informal restaurants) baby lamb chops.

      7 Replies
      1. re: BobB

        I never eat fried chicken by picking it up and gnawing away. Yuck. And NEVER lamb chops either.

        1. re: c oliver

          C, there is a respectability in your adhering to your mother's rules of dining, but I suggest you let your hair down and try a little gnawing, at first in the privacy in your own home. How do you eat baby back ribs? If people in a restaurant in Texas saw you eating fried chicken with a knife and fork, they would chip in and buy you a bus ticket to Oklahoma, thinking they have improved the average culinary etiquette in both states.

          1. re: Veggo

            I think I'm buying YOU a ticket here. You started our day with a laugh. Thanks.

            At home I DO gnaw ribs but I would eat the main portion of the meat on a lamb chop with knife and fork and then gnaw. I DO eat chicken wings with my fingers but not the breast (I don't like dark meat chicken). I'd say most people eat the breast with a knife and fork, wouldn't you? My hair's only recently gotten long enough to put up so I guess now I can let it down. Baby back ribs? If they're really meaty, I might cut off larger pieces, mainly because as tender as ours are sometimes a bite pulls all the meat off.
            PS: I'm NOT a stuffy person :)

              1. re: Karl S

                Oh, I thought "stuffed" on Chowhound was implied.

              2. re: c oliver

                C - you made me think about how I eat chicken, and like you I don't like dark meat, so I usually get a breast. Most of the time they are just too big to pick up and eat, so I use a knife and fork to slice as much as I can and then I pick the slices up with my fingers to eat. So I guess I am a half and half type person.

                Now gnawing a bone in a restaurant is something I would never do! At home, I get the bones because the DH leave too much meat on his. But in public I play the "I need to take the bone for my dog" card, and then gnaw here.

                Speaking of gnawing - my daughter when she was young went to a friends house where they served pork chops, and they just picked them up and ate them without any cutting! She tried that at home ONCE. A bone is one thing but a whole pork chop!

                BTW - check your email. I sent you something.

                1. re: danhole

                  And please include some rolls, my dog only eats sandwiches.

        2. My rule of thumb is that if I have a cloth napkin, I will play the etiquette game and use only knife and fork. If I have a paper napkin, I will gnaw like a rabid wolf.

          1. OK, so I have a friend that loves bone in rib eye as much (maybe more, but no that's not possible) as I do. We have this discussion just about everytime we go out for steak. I have always found it gauche to pick up a bone and gnaw in a restaurant. She just doesn't care. I would take my bone home to gnaw in the privacy of my kitchen. She says it tastes best if you gnaw on it right at the dinner table. Now in So Cal, most restaurant, despite how high-priced they may be, are usually beach casual and now I figure if people can show up in shorts and flip flops and girls can expose their jiggly bellies and bra straps, then who the hell cares if I pick up the bone and gnaw. And my friend is right.... it taste better at the dinner table.

            1. Nope. I take it home for private gnawing. :)