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Jun 17, 2009 07:47 AM

With this burger, I thee wed

So, the latest trend in weddings these days seems to be comfort food and putting on a dinner that probably is expensive, but is not meant to look expensive. The article referenced by the NYT describes parties with no wedding cake, but the fruit cobbler served is just as expensive. Mini burgers and French Fries are the latest rage. Any Chowhounds been to these types of weddings? Any thoughts?

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  1. Our rehearsal dinner was formal (everyone was invited), wedding reception informal with kalua pig and low country food (I was prepared for people to change into flip flops, surfer shirts, and shorts).

    I can honestly say that there was little difference in cost.

    We didn't put the menus together for appearances sake (to appear less vulgar, as per the article). The rehearsal dinner was Californian to respect my family, the reception low country to respect my husband's family, and pig because both sides like pig. Plenty of vegan options at both meals.

    Some who didn't attend the rehearsal dinner were surprised even though the menus were online, but the same guests also thought that heels would be appropriate at the dusty grounds of a Mission; I should have included flip flops in the gift bags.

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    1. re: Caralien

      <I can honestly say that there was little difference in cost. >

      I'm not surprised. Isn't the cost of the food itself a relatively small percentage of the total? The other costs - food prep, food serving, food cleanup, dishes & silverware & tables - would be pretty much the same whether the entree was lobster or fish sticks.

      1. re: small h

        I should add that we did have cake. Its cost was inflated because there was only 1 bakery within a 2 hour drive that agreed to make and deliver a wedding cake, and I was banned from the kitchen.

    2. The article also discusses the "wedding after party". Never been to one of those, anyone out there have experience with this?

      As the mother of 2 college girls, trying to figure out what I might be on the hook for in the short term when they get married.

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      1. re: Diane in Bexley

        Our post reception party was in the hotel bar where all the out of town guests stayed. But the guests were on the hook for this party and by that point no one seemed to mind having to pay for their own drinks after we footed the bill for the previous 5 hours. The post party started after 11 and lasted until 4 am. The hotel, although previously warned to have at least two bartenders, only staffed one person and he was totally overwhelmed by the amount of drinking that went on. The bar closed at 2am, we then pooled money, bought bottles of booze and cases of beer, relocated to the lobby and they pretty much demanded that we leave the lobby at 4 am.

        1. re: roro1831

          We paid for most of our wedding, and it had to be in NYC, where my husband's from. So we got amrried in a church at 10:30am, then did a luncheon at a really nice restaurant from noon-4pm, and finally, directed everyone to a bar down the street from the restaurant, where everyone paid for their own drinks. It was awesome. And all within budget (which was not that much, trust me!)

          1. re: roro1831

            Every "after party" I've been to has been as you describe, including the part where everybody gets kicked out. Once we hung out in the lounge of a bowling alley, because it was the only place open within 20 miles of the wedding. Eventually the manager killed the lights and unplugged the jukebox. Good times!

        2. wow. 150 000 to 200 000$ for a wedding with burgers and fries!!
          I thought the article would be about how weddings are now more reasonable in cost... not the opposite!

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          1. re: alixium

            We paid for our wedding ourselves, with some help from my wife's mother, but our reception was wonderful and no where near a price like that. That is just ridiculous, imho, to spend that type of money, but then again, if you have gobs of money, that would be just like me dropping $25,000 on something when you multiply what I make by ten. It's all relative to what you make, I guess the people in the article come from very well off families. I guess if the article was about normal people, it wouldn't make for good reading.