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May 19, 2009 12:37 PM

foodie + non-foodie=doomed?

Does anybody have a significant other who thinks that being a "foodie" means having an eating disorder? And can a relationship between a foodie and non-foodie ever work???

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  1. See the thread "A chowhound married to a picky eater . . . divorce? ;-) "

    1. Non-foodies have their own disorders. They laugh too hard at their own jokes, their passport is usually expired, they wear mismatched clothing, and their favorite phrase is "Huh?"

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        1. Mrs CHM's favorite restaurants are Applebee's, Chili's, and On the Boarder. Mine are not. She won't eat any seafood, steaks are well done with a ton of A-1 on them. She thinks paying any more that $8 for an entree is insanity. She refuses to try new restaurants or anything too weird.

          We've been married for 24 years and I wouldn't trade her for anyone.

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          1. re: chileheadmike

            At least the price has been right along the way. For your silver anniversary next year, you can thrill her with a chili cheese dog with onions.
            Cynicism aside, congratulations. Stories like yours are nice to hear, CHM.

          2. My Dh is a foodie in many ways but not in others....he doesn't like Thai or Indian food and generally prefers American, French and Italian but will eat Mexican, Vietnamese or Japanese under peer pressure. Lunch is my saving grace. That's when I have Thai, Indian, and fun things like falafel.

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            1. re: Janet from Richmond

              How can a foodie arbitarially eliminate certain food types and remain a foodie?

            2. "And can a relationship between a foodie and non-foodie ever work???"

              No. Run like the wind unless you're prepared to sneak out to have solo meals at interesting places or drag this lame-o around and have your meals ruined by their constant bitching or the pitiful guilt trip they'll lay on you if they condescend to join you at any restaurant that isn't boring.

              It's a big world with plenty of attractive and interesting people out there who also enjoy good food. Find one.

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              1. re: Bob Martinez

                I completely disagree! The important thing is not so much whether both partners are 'foodies' but whether there is mutual respect and enough compromise in order for both to indulge their passions. You don't have to share everything in a relationship but you do need to encourage your SO's interests and make an effort if they ask you to.

                My fiancé eats everything I make but until he met me, his diet was mainly made up of convenient foods and until this very day, he would reach for the white bread, butter and baked beans for lunch every single day. I have to censor myself not to be dismissive because I think he is wonderful and amazing in every way and like somebody said earlier, I would not trade him for anyone else.

                1. re: Paula76

                  Can he salsa, samba, cumbia, mambo...?

                  1. re: Sam Fujisaka

                    None of the above, Sam...Can you believe it? :-) Saying that, as a 'porteña' raised in an asphalt jungle, I can't either but the joys of mixed couplings are endless. I couldn't think of anything more boring than being with someone with exactly my same background but each to their own...

                    1. re: Paula76

                      So what DOES he specialize in and do you like those items?