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Mom's, Do You Feel Different, When You Are Cooking For the Kids?

This is a strange question.. I'm wondering if other mothers (Dad's too maybe) have experienced this strange feeling of happiness. Once in awhile, I have no clue what I am going to cook for the kids for dinner, and I feel pretty stressed about it, however, when I figure out what I am going to prepare, and know it's something I think they'll enjoy, or even after I see them eating something and enjoying it, I get an almost euphoric feeling. I wonder if this is something other moms experience? Is it just part of human/animal nature inbred over thousands of years to keep families going? Or is it just that I am excited to see my picky kids eating knowing they aren't starving...

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  1. It certainly is a Dad thing. You mean maybe its a Mom thing as well?

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    1. re: Sam Fujisaka

      Agree Sam. Certainly not just a female expereince. When I'm cooking for my kids, who are both off at college now, I get a great sense of enjoyment making something I know they like. I also get a great sense of enjoyment and satisfaction watching them enjoy it.

      I was a bad dad. I made them what they wanted, even if I had already prepared dinner for us. Some days I felt like a short order cook but even looking back at it, I wouldn't have done it if I didn't enjoy it.

      1. re: Sam Fujisaka

        I'm with Sam, my 15 month old is far from picky, he'll eat anything not fast enough to get off his plate. It does make me feel good to find something that really lights him up, Since I make all of his food except the breast milk, it's a daily adventure.

        1. re: Scrapironchef

          Um...in a way, you kinda make the milk too. ;)

          1. re: OCAnn

            Actually I'm the stay at home dad, mom handles the breastmilk production....

            1. re: Scrapironchef

              LOL! Oops...sorry, thought you were the mom! =)

        2. re: Sam Fujisaka

          I'm with Sam. Love cooking for my son. Love it more when he's cooking with me.

          1. re: Indirect Heat

            When this thread popped to the top of the list, I immediately thought of our dearly departed Sam. What a girl he was raising :

            1. re: c oliver

              OMG - What happened to Sam? I always looked forward to his posts.

                1. re: jcattles

                  Thank you for sharing that here; I wasn't aware that he passed. =(

        3. well I don't "cook for the kids" I cook for the four of us :). Every afternoon the kids (teenagers) ask "what's for dinner" and usually I get a shrug when I answer with one of my wide ranging meals. But it *is* nice when they say "Oh I really like that" (Of course I'd get a lot more of that if the answer was ever pizza or hot dogs :)). Nice when one of my "odd recipes" ends up as a favorite.

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          1. re: DGresh

            I wonder if it is something to do with feeding the kids while they are younger, mine are 8&9, but the feeling hasn't gone away yet. Perhaps when they are teenagers and able to feed themselves it diminishes???

            1. re: DGresh

              My mom would always respond, "Poison".

              1. re: DGresh

                You don't ever fix pizza or hot dogs? Why not? Just curious.

                1. re: c oliver

                  maybe for lunch on a weekend, occasionally, might have hot dogs for the kids. Not for dinner. *I* don't want that for dinner, and like I said, I cook for 4.

                  1. re: DGresh

                    I just had leftover pizza last night for my solo dinner. Homemade sausage, shaved fennel, red bell pepper, pasilla pepper, shaved garlic, cremini mushrooms, cheeses. Before eating I topped it with some arugula and drizzled with good oliver oil. That was might fine leftover :) And while I can't remember cooking plain hotdogs in a long time, there are all sorts of wonderful sausages and breads and condiments that make a special dog also. So pizza and dogs don't have to Pizza Hut and Oscar Mayer any more :)

                    1. re: c oliver

                      italian sausage sandwiches with red peppers are part of the rotation in our house :)

              2. I'm a mom of both a 15 and a 9 year old. I love it when they enjoy the food I have prepared but really, I get excited and happy about cooking for anyone who appreciates food. Now, if I have to cater to a lot of dislikes. it's not nearly as much fun as when I can have free reign.

                1. I think its great when u find some thing that works(ie) a good marinade or sauce for chix wings or a new twist on a pasta dish and a few days later they say "when we having that again" I save the recipe and pray its the same

                  1. For me it's not just limited to my kids or family. I like nothing better than feeding someone who appreicates my efforts to create good home cooked food. When they tell me how good it was or want the recipe it's definitely a warm fuzzy.