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Gender Clue

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Anyone else ever go along talking to someone who uses a neutral handle for months on end, thinking that person is male or female, only to find out you've been 100% wrong from the beginning? Jarring! Makes me wonder what's broken in my radar! Gives me extreme empathy for the adult progeny of the recently transgendered!

While I recognize that these are extremely delicate times, financially, for all things Chow, and while I truly do appreciate how hard everyone "on the other side of the curtain" here at Chow works, is it possible to add an item to the personal profile page where people are asked to indicate their gender? Those of us who use our real names, or portions thereof, are usually readily identifiable, despite the fact that I had a grandfather named "Shirley," but those who use "handles" can be a real puzzlement!

Anyone else think this would be useful?

  1. I don't need anyone to flag to me what their gender is, I am only interested in communicating with human beings on these forums.

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    1. re: ChinoWayne

      Now you've done it. You had to go and piss off every Extraterrestrial Gourmetian in the Universe. For your sake I hope the Klingon's have finally developed a "stun" setting on their disruptor weapons.

      1. re: ChinoWayne

        So much for the New Yorker Cartoon: "On the internet, no one knows you're a dog!" (Woof)

        1. Sorry, Caroline, I think I agree with ChinoWayne. BTW, my "c" is for Catherine but who cares? Doesn't make me cook any better or worse :)

          1. It's the internet. I am always telling my son that the 14 year old girl he's "talking" to might well be an 80 year old man. Even if you ask people to indicate their gender on this site, how would you know that what they'd say is true? To an extent you can't trust anyone. On the other hand, if you are having a good conversation -- does it matter?

            1. Personally, I don't find it at all relevant and I think it's generally safer to not put such questions on a profile so that users don't feel that they need to reveal any more than they're entirely comfortable with. I understand that there'd be no requirement that anyone fill out a profile (as there isn't now) but I'd prefer to leave that kind of thing out of the profile and leave it to users to ask each other if they feel it necessary.