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Rude to complain when a xmas party gets noisy at a restaurant?

This is definately not your romantic restaurant scene and a lrg group of women were enjoying their xmas party (seperated from the major restaurant by a partitian). This guy and his wife come in and sit - within minutes goes over to this group and complains that they are just too noisy and "could they keep it down"? I was shocked and actually felt bad for the party group. If he wanted a quite night out, first I wouldn't have chosen this chinese restaurant and second - toughen up, it's the holidays and folks are having their xmas parties. They were only laughing. It's not like they were drunk and behavior was rude. I wish I said something to him! "Happy Holidays Scrooge"!

Any thoughts?

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  1. I would have sent him a drink. It's Christmas. And as you stated, not a romantic restaurant.

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    1. re: Janet from Richmond

      Janet, great idea, meet him head on with some class and kindness and make him feel like the smuck he was for insisting on quiet. If I had witnessed it I would have sent him the drink with two olives with instructions to plug his ears with them.....

    2. He was a bit out of line. A Chinese restaurant can get noisy, and as you said - if he wanted a quiet night, that was not the place.

      Did management go over to the larger group and ask them to lower their voices?

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      1. re: LindaWhit

        Didn't go to management at all, in fact wasn't seated more than 5 minutes and up he went to speak to this group.

        We happen to be leaving same time as this group and they apologized to us "if we were too noisy" and we said "absolutely not, sounds like you were enjoying your party, we love that - maybe they (that guy) shouldn't have come out if they were looking for a quiet ambiance". They were appreciative of our comments.

        When he complained I did hear one say "guess this is the last time we'll have our event here" - which is not good for business. 18 vs 2

        Hopefully our comments changed their mind realizing it was just this one jack a@@!

        1. re: lexpatti

          Misread what you originally wrote - I cannot believe that he went over the the group and asked them to be quiet! I hope your comments help change their mind as well!

          1. re: lexpatti

            I would much rather sit next to 10 laughing ladies, than 4 Teens dropping the "F" bomb every other word.

            1. re: gryphonskeeper

              Dont' get me started on the movie theatre................. I hesitate to go anymore - this is one place that should be completely quiet!

              1. re: lexpatti

                this is precisely why I do not go to ANY rated PG and above movie anymore.

              2. re: gryphonskeeper

                I completely agree on that one, gryph!

          2. I expect Chinese restaurants to be a bit noisier no matter what time of year it is. It's just an environment where groups like to gather and share food, while other types of restaurants are more suitable for the intimate, romantic dining. Maybe it's just my area, but the good Chinese restaurants typically have the decor of the average HS cafeteria, and while the food is amazing, nowhere does it scream "Romance!"

            1. News Flash To all the Sensitive types, Whiners and Complainers......

              The belief that it is a privilege for any establishment to serve you when your presence is made....you would be wrong because due to the fact you are merely a guest and the world does not revolve around you. The businesses welcome you and should do whatever they can to accommodate your wants and desires if possible....but taking care of business personally by voicing your displeasure directly to the group, and not through the management, was simply RUDE and a selfish act.

              1. i think this dude was pretty lame, *and* rude, if the folks were just having a nice party and not being drunk/obnoxious. heck, even if they were being drunk/obnoxious, there were other things he could have done-- requesting another table further away from the large party, for starters.