Urgent -- Do we need to bring a host gift in this situation?
- Miss Needle Dec 6, 2008 10:39 AM
Hi. Sorry for posting one of these silly etiquette things but DH and I are having a disagreement about host gifts. We're going to a business party tonight that is hosted by one of the partners (company is not picking up the tab on this one). This is purely a business function. It will be held at this guy's house and will be catered. DH (who is also a partner) doesn't think we should bring a host gift as this is not a social event. I think we should bring one as the guy is shelling out the funds and making use of his house. As this party is tonight, I'd appreciate any last minute input. Thanks!
Yes, at least a token of your appreciation. Perhaps a bottle of wine, some holiday baked goods, even a poinsetta.
Thanks ola and janeh for your speedy replies! Yes, I've convinced DH we should bring something -- most likely a bottle of Italian wine, as the host loves it.
The company is relatively new so there are insufficient funds (and with the way the economy is going lately, it will probably be like this for a bit longer -- sigh!). So every thing the company does comes from the pockets of all the partners -- including every single business trip (let me tell you, last minute air fares are REALLY expensive), business dinners, etc. And the guest list includes all of the partners, employees and investors.
re: Miss Needle
If you're thinking of bringing wine, consider bringing a bottle each of red and white. Just in case the host and/hostess decide to crack open your wines, you'll have brought something to please everyone who drinks wine. Extra bonus: you cover the hostess as well if she's not a red wine drinker.
When invited to a party at a friend's place, I bought her two bottles of wine (both red, as she doesn't "do" whites) and one of those neoprene wine totes that preserves the temperature of the bottles encased within. I know you're getting down to the wire, but if you know of a place that sells those, you might have time to pop out and buy one. If you don't have time, then I'd suggest picking a couple of your better than average bottles from your collection.
>If you're thinking of bringing wine, consider bringing a bottle each
>of red and white.
i dont agree with this. you're giving a gift, not helping throw the party.
to be slightly crass, i think it would be better to bring a "nicer bottle"
[as the OP did] than the red/white/champagne/aperatif/digestif hedge ...
gifts arent about convex preferences or hedging.
re: OP's debriefing below ... the "Car Strategy" was hilarious.
I think it is most definitly in good form to bring a gift. (I know you've already decided it, and are probably there already, as I type).
To me, this is not purely a business function. Unless it is a working dinner and there are ONLY employees and investors there and you will be actively working during the evening..., but i'm assuming that the SO's and what not are on the guest list and this is a party.... unless you are a partner or employee in the business as well (not just by marriage I mean). Even if the business was coughing up for this, the host is still opening his home to people. That alone should warrant a gesture IMHO.
Plus, it's really no different than offernig to pick up a cheque at a business/working lunch. It all makes for good relations in the business world.