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hold the flowers

I entertain frequently and provide everything needed for the event. People arrive and rarely are they 'empty handed.' And I generally appreciate whatever they bring which, usually, is wine. But it might be a book or anything or nothing.
I can't stand when people bring cut flowers. At the moment guest arrive with coats and conversation and need to be 'settled' here comes the flowers needing trimming and arranging and a vase. It's a big interruption. Of course I'm gracious and enthusiastic but annoyed and inconvenienced. Am I alone in feeling this way? Am I just cranky?

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  1. you're cranky.

    I do not have flowers at home (I do not buy them , and receiving some is always welcome.

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    1. re: Maximilien

      What about obnoxiously stinky flowers (like Easter Lilies)? They give me a headache, overpower the food, and linger in the house for days.

      Can I reasonably tell my guest to leave them outside the front door? (No, I suppose not.)

      I currently put them in a vase, excuse myself from the conversation and quietly tuck them out the back door on the deck and then pitch them out the next day.

      1. re: Atahualpa

        A fine way to deal with what is for you an umpleasant gift (and yes, some flowers can smell obnoxious). And the giver is none the wiser!

    2. I have to admit to being thrilled anytime someone brings me flowers and I agree that it can be a bit of a scramble, but if you think it may happen, you can prepare.

      When I have certain guests, (likely to bring flowers) I have a couple of vases clean and ready under my kitchen sink. I've also been known to ask them to get the flowers into water for me if I have other guests to attend to at that moment.

      1. I say stick em in the sink until you can deal with them.

        1. Sorry, but I agree with Maximilien. (Full disclosure: I have been both a flower bringer and a flower receiver.) Your guest is simply trying to make a contribution to the party, and you're not obligated to interrupt anything in order to accept it. Cut flowers can sit in the kitchen in their wrappings until you can attend to them, or you can delegate that responsibility to another guest who wants to feel useful. Also, many people will respond to an invitation to someone's home by asking what they can bring. That's your chance to respond: "Not flowers!"

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          1. re: Miss Priss

            I usually have the flowers I want when entertaining but if someone brings them (don't like it but smile graciously and say how pretty even if it the arrangement they grabbed in the supermarket) I pull out a vase and ask them to take care of them while I'm greeting my other guests.

          2. I often take flowers (non-stinky) and immediately offer to deal with them myself, just show me where you keep your vases. We love it when people bring flowers too, they repeatedly remind us of what a lovely time we had with our friends for a few days or even a week after our dinner.