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Oct 25, 2008 08:24 AM

Are you secretive with your recipes?

I am willing to share when anyone asks. No tricks or ploys. Sometimes I have forgotten something but correct it as soon as I can. How about you? I often find the excuses just silly. Stuff like it was my mother's and i promised never to share it with anyone but family members, or I'd tel you but then I'd have to kill you and the like.

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  1. Just like you, I always share all.

    1. I agree with the "find the excuses just silly." I always share, but people look at me funny when I write out my recipes, or give them out in spoken word. I generally don't follow recipes (which is why I don't bake) - I use them as guidelines. So, if I'me giving someone a recipe, I'll say something like "add some fresh garlic." If they ask how much, I usually answer with "an amount that makes sense to you." It's garlic. I know what it tastes like, you know what it tastes like. If you like LOT of garlic, then add a lot. Same with salt, pepper, hot chile, ginger...I love sharing recipes, but I can't cook it for you.

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      1. re: gordeaux

        That is exactly how I am. People do get annoyed when you don't have exact measurements for every little thing. Some things have to be done according to taste as everyone just doesn't like the same amount of salt, garlic, heat, etc. Sometimes, I just want to go to people's houses and cook with them watching, especially when they say they just don't know how to cook anything at all.

        I love to share recipes and my joy of cooking. Goodness, I even ended up talking about food to my bank teller last week. lol That could be a good thing as a friend of hers is strongly considering opening a restaurant in a small town near here and is looking for employees. She took my name and number.

      2. Only with the ones that don't work ;-)
        Love to share recipes with anyone interested.

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        1. re: hannaone

          I love to share. The only problem I have is when someone takes a recipe thet will only work with full fat or requires many eggs and the recipient adjusts to "make it healthy" and then serve the inferior product with my name attached to it. I certainly don't mind if someone alters my recipe, but when that happens, it is no longer mine.

          1. re: pesto

            Yes, exactly. I always share, but people think I'm hiding the ball because (1) they substitute milk for the cream or use PAM instead of olive oil or butter, and (2) so much of what goes into making the food is stuff that can't be quite explained (like rinsing, squeezing out a certain amount of water, waiting, touching, and smelling)... and then they come back and tell me that it wasn't the same recipe or that I must have left something out when I wrote it out by memory

          2. re: hannaone

            to the great benefit of chowhounds! i'll probably pass your kimchee recipe down to my children.

          3. Yeah, I've got no problems with sharing. You'll never get unless you give. I don't think some people realize that, where they're tight-fisted with everything (in addition to recipes).

            But there are a couple of instances where I understand why somebody would not divulge a recipe. One would be is if you made your living off of a particular recipe. And if somebody gave me a recipe and promised me not to tell other people, I would honor their request, whether or not I thought it was silly.

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            1. re: Miss Needle

              I agree, I have no problem sharing my recipes. I do, however, have a recipe given to me by a good friend. Before she gave me the recipe she asked me not to give it out to anyone else, I have honored her request and say no to people who ask.

              1. re: lizzy

                I have a friend who is a caterer and bbq competitor. He shared a few recipes with me after I promised not to share. No matter how many times I'm asked, there is no way I'd share his recipes. However, I will make (at home alone) and share the finished products with close friends/family.

                I have been working on a bbq sauce for over 15 years. There is no way I'd share that one with anyone as in the future, I hope to use it in my own restaurant or catering business.

                1. re: alliedawn_98

                  This is exactly how I do it, I have no problem making the recipe for friends and family but the recipe is not mine to give. However, the recipe is not part of a business, in fact it is just the opposite. The creator of the recipe was approached by a company and she turned them down, she doesn't want the recipe getting into the wrong hands. I think it is funny she is still worried about it over 50 years I said it is not mine to give.

                  Good luck with the bbq sauce!

              2. re: Miss Needle

                You'll never get unless you give. Well said Miss Needle. I try to follow the golden rule as best as I can. When someone does me a favor or a kindness I can't wait to find some way to pay that person back. Makes me feel all warm and glowy. It can be hard to share a recipe with fledgling cooks, who of course need the recipes even more. I have to go into explanations about technique and sometimes I can see their eyes start to glaze over. I'm still learning how to not overload them with information due to my own enthusiasm.

                1. re: Miss Needle

                  Nicely said, Miss Needle. Recipes are meant to be shared, just like the food that they produce. My Grandmother always said that they should not only be passed down in the family but around to the neighbors as well. It's always flattering when asked for a recipe & when given one, I'm always appreciative. My one exception is work related but I try to make up for it by supplying them with the item itself rather than the recipe.

                2. I'm not secretive just don't have set recipes so it's hard to give someone an exact recipe to someone.

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                  1. re: scubadoo97

                    same here. never to make exactly the same thing twice, but happy to tell what I think I did.