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Aug 22, 2008 06:21 PM

First date advice; need help

For a few weeks, I've been communicating via email/cell phone with a woman and am planning on taking her out to dinner in Seattle when I get back from California. This will be our first date and I would like to make it memorable. Any romantic suggestions?

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  1. Well, this depends on how adventurous you (and she) are. If you do not have many dietary limitations, then I would recommend Pasta Freska ( They have no menus for dinner.

    The owner comes around to your table and asks you if there's anything you don't like or are allergic to. Then he brings you food. It's a decent amount of food but not overwhelming, they serve wine and beer but not hard alcohol yet (but are applying for a license).

    It's anywhere from 4-6 courses depending on the evening and it is quite good. It's relatively inexpensive for what you get ($50 for dinner and a good amount of wine per person) and it is a good 2+ hour experience. The chef is always engaging and you can tell he really loves his job, so that adds to the fun of the evening. Plus... no stress and no decisions.

    Everyone I've ever brought there has absolutely loved it and we're probably talking a good 25 people over the past couple of years.

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    1. re: patriciajane

      I love the Pasta Freska idea! My sister and bro-in-law took us there a few years ago and it was wonderful. If my sister likes it, it is a good restaurant - she is the pickiest eater I have ever met...

    2. Shiggy, Chez Shea would be a good choice as would the upstairs bar at Maximillien's at the Market.

      1. Thank you for your suggestions. After performing a search, I found this rather large list of "romantic" restaurants:

        Also, what are your opinions of Canlis and Matt's in the Market?

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        1. re: Shiggy

          I loved Canlis, but it is quite formal and not at all appropriate for a first date. I think you'd be far better off with a more casual restaurant. No matter how much you've talked on the phone and emailed, the first "face to face" is fraught with peril (or at least nerves) to keep it low key and comfortable. Believe me, if things work out, it will be "memorable", where ever you go. My first meeting with my now husband was for coffee at Il Fornaio...brightly lit, exits in all directions! Why not take her to one of your favorite spots? As long as it is quiet enough for easy conversation, that should be fine.

          1. re: Jeri L

            im with Jeri! I would recommend HH somewhere where you know its good, has a laid back atmosphere and isnt break the bank spendy. last thing you want to do is waste a bunch of dough on a wet blanket. plus, alcohol makes everyone more charming!!!

          2. re: Shiggy

            I agree, Canlis is much more of a 25th anniversary kind of place. Matt's is fantastic and I think would be great for a first date--very good food and nice ambiance, but not fancy, quiet or stuffy. See if they'll let you reserve a table with a view, or maybe one at least against the windows (there are some two tops right in the middle of the restaurant, which are less cozy/romantic).

            1. re: christy319

              And Canlis is a real hit for the 50th. The grandkids enjoy the view, the service is stellar for everybody and there are no surprises.

          3. I love Chez Shea but it can be very quiet when you may need a little more action around you with a new date. That's my take! Also, I concur that Matt's is a much better choice than Canlis.

            1. I would be very impressed if a guy suggested Matt's in the Market for a first date. However, if you've never been there, a day or two before the date go to the market and scope it out. Some people have a hard time locating it (which is part of its charm).