Help with Gift Basket Contents! (For an elderly person)
- The Oracle Jul 24, 2008 04:35 PM
I'm wanting to put together a gift basket for a friend's father (83) who just came home from the hospital after having a mild stroke. I have inquired by have not heard back about any personal dietary restrictions....
I'm drawing BLANKS as to what to fill the basket with.
So far, all I can think of is apples and oranges (thinking along the lines of fruit that would last longer than peaches/berries). What else would be on the healthy-side or appropriate for someone in his 80's?
Depending on sugar restrictions
Sugar-free candy and chocolates
dried figs and apricots
Thin whole-wheat crackers with fat-free garden cheese spreads
Madelines and petite-palmiers
Pasteurized 100% juices like valencia, or acaiberry or apple
Right, skip the apples and oranges. I've noticed that the elderly who get these with their meals on wheels never eat them, but never ask for alternatives.... something about their generation, I guess. If they remember to eat at all, something like cookies, easy to open and eat snacks and drinks, anything with calories, no fake food, no low fat or low cal. Preferably non-perishable as sometimes they forget to refrigerate things. No bananas, please, it's awful for visitors to see blackened overripe bananas piling up.
Ask your friend: 1- what does his father like/dislike, 2- is he disabled by the stroke, 3- is he living alone? If 2 or 3 are yes, go for easy-opening individual servings of apple sauce, jam, honey, crackers, cheese sticks, etc. Include plastic spoons, knives & cheerful napkins. The last time I had this situation, the woman's daughter told me that she loves fruit jams & exotic teas, which I was happy to send.
I seriously second asking your friend what hre father likes and what he can eat.
If he can eat sweets, something like Pepperidge farm soft cookies or any soft cookies are nice. Stay away from those with nuts. If he is very disabled, the nuts might be too difficult to deal with and he could choke on them.
Shelf-stable applesauce, puddings, fruit cups, jello might be good ... if he likes that sort of thing.
The muffins and breads like banana might be good. I'd look for packaged and stable versions. There's nothing wrong with a nice slice of packaged pound cake or other type of dessert.
Nothing too dry or difficult to chew. I hope someone isn't as thoughtless as to give me dried prunes in a gift basket when I'm that age. I personally would use them to throw at the giver. It's a little stereo-typed and I'm sure if that is what this person needs, it is in grocery staples ... really.
Maybe some nice truffles or soft-centered candies. If booze is still interesting or allowed .. get some booze-filled candies. Cheer the guy up ... man, it would depress me to get a stinking box of prunes. Also, the majority of the time, Ensure is not popular. In the many years my mom was in a nursing home, not many liked ensure. It tastes awful (I've tried it) and even people with little taste left were more likely to snub it. It is the food of desparation when someone needs calories and is a few steps away from a feeding tube.
Go with soft and comforting. If someone is severly disabled by a stroke, chewing and swallowing could be a problem. You really need to talk to your friend ... or go with flowers ... or balloons ... or music ... maybe some music cds he might enjoy. On the music idea ... if he can get out, maybe some tickets for the friend and dad for a concert.
Unfortunately, I did ask my friend and am not getting much direction, other than she is trying to restrict his salt, sugar and intake of greasy foods. The only idea she gave me was to NOT bring donuts (which hadn't even crossed my mind).
I have a loaf of zucchini bread in the oven and am going to whip up some scones in the morning. I think I'll head to Trader Joe's and pick up what I can find. And... I'll stay away from prunes :) Thanks all for getting me on the right track...
Thankfully, it was a mild stroke and he was not severly disabled, but he does have Parkinson's, so his balance and coordination is limited to begin with.
I never realized how hard it is to NOT buy hard, crunchy, sticky... I think my friend could benefit from the contents of the gift basket as well... so, anything he doesn't eat, I'm sure she'll use. I may get some fixin's for pasta - so they have it on hand, etc. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again for all the input... it's much appreciated!
re: The Oracle
Thanks everyone! Basket made and delivered.... I ended up making a little bit of a combination for both of them... besides the homemade items, I bought jam, lemon curd, pasta, sauce, bread, mini-cheese crackers, soft cereal bars, and some fruit juice. I was surprised how quickly everything filled up the big basket I had...
Can't thank you all enough! I will definitely reuse the info in this post for the future!