New Haven steakhouses
I'm kinda of the same mind, as you. Wonder if you could sway them towards Union League Cafe or an Italian resto that does a good job with steaks? Other than ULC, I'm not sure who that would be but we've just been talking about Italian: http://www.chowhound.com/topics/52918...
Since I seldom, intentionally go out for steak (meaning, not yet in NH), I have ended up at Central Steakhouse twice, because of circumstances. Both times it was very good and service was impeccable. If this person is into wine, see if you can sit downstairs, where part of the wine cellar is (you are surrounded by wine). They have one of the best selections in the area. My understanding is Central Steakhouse is at least on-par with Carmen Anthony.