in the city tuesday the wife and i looking for good steak house
Do a "Search this board" search for steak or steak house and you should be able to pull up several past threads on this topic. It does get discussed at least once every month or two.
The consensus is probably that SF does not really have a "great" steakhouse. Alfred's and Harris' are probably 2 of the best traditionally styled places, with booths, martinis and tuxedoed waiters. Acme Chop House, near the ballpark, is probably the best modern one, with a wide variety of meats, some grass fed.
Another alternative is to look at the Place records and the linked topics. The steakhouse restaurants should all have a link to the website and menus as well
There's a few low-price/quality joints you can rule out like Tad's.
I don't think anyone has mentioned Leatherneck at the Marine's Memorial. Never been so don't know how good. The impression I get is that they might be good.
Here's a list of places I've tried exclusively for steak, but some aren't Steak Houses. In no particular order. Bobo's (Boboquivari's) is great for steak. The Seasons Restaurant at the Four Seasons Hotel has some really nice steaks, plus a nice bar area. Went to Epic Roast House last week for steak and was underwhelmed, but the non-steak food looked pretty good. Lark Creek Steak in Westfield Center is OK for steak. You can actually get a good steak at Out The Door at Westfield also. Joe DiMaggio's in North Beach has good steaks. Alfred's has nice steak house atmosphere, but the steaks were just OK. Morton's Steakhouse was just OK also. So there are choices for steak in SF, you just have to look...
Harris' - hands down. Alfred's is also very nice. Otherwise, I'd recommend Acme Chop House or Bob's. It really depends on the type of steak place you like. Harris' and Alfred's are old-school, traditional steak houses.
dry-aged: Acme, Alfred's, Boboquivari's, El Raigon, Epic Roasthouse, Harris'
both (?): Lark Creek Steak (menu specifies dry-aged for certain steaks)
to be determined: Joe DiMaggio's, Izzy's (menus just say "aged")
wet-aged (all branches of out-of-town chains): Bob's, Morton's, Ruth's Chris