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Dec 19, 2007 08:46 PM

Downtown, First Date, Butter?

I'm looking for a restaurant w/ good food & atmosphere downtown for a first date with a special lady. I'm considering Butter or Cuba. I'd welcome comments on those two or new suggestions.

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  1. Both of those are completely different from one another. What kind of "scene" are you looking for?

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    1. Market Table is on my "must try" list. What are some of your favorite items?

      1. re: LeahBaila

        the gnocchi appetizer is are the scallops. the crab cake and lamb shank are excellent.

        its just a solid place...everything is quality and the prices are reasonable...service and wine are excellent too. their only drawback is the desserts...and with blue ribbon's chocolate chip bread pudding around the block, i usually have to go there right after should too.

        1. re: sam1

          Oh wow, thank you so much! It certainly sounds fantastic. I've STILL not been to Blue Ribbon Bakery (I'm kind of embarassed to admit that).

          1. re: LeahBaila

            for years, i always thought the blue ribbons were overpriced and boring...which they are...but the bakery on bedford and downing just rules...its the only one i go to and has become a regular spot for me...with friends, family, or dates.

      2. re: LeahBaila

        You can tell from my choices that I've not decided on the type of scene I'm looking for. Good food is important to me. Butter (upstairs), seems more grand (I'd like her to know I consider it a special evening) but Cuba might be more intimate. I know Cuba has music on weekends. Is it background or loud enough to intrude on the intimacy?

        1. re: Rmis32

          Cuba's music is very loud. I went on a first date there and it was definately intruding on intimacy. The food is great and you can't beat pitchers of mojitos, but I don't think it's a good "first date" spot. I don't think Butter is, either.

          1. re: LeahBaila

            I greatly appreciate your responses.
            I peeked in on both restaurants early on a weekday evening, before the dinner crowd fully arrived. My impression of Butter's upstairs room was that it's decor would be soothing & relatively quiet, no? You seem to like Cuba but too noisy, on music nights. If I was willing to trade intimacy for fun, would you consider it suitable? Maybe I would plan to arrive at Cuba an hour before the music starts & get some coversation in before the volume intrudes.

            1. re: Rmis32

              I think thats a great idea. Get some conversation in, then enjoy the music...perfect plan.

      3. Butter is certainly more of a "scene" and it's a bit pricier than Cuba, too. I, for one, would be far more comfortable on a first date at Cuba. The atmosphere is lively and the service is friendly. The food is also excellent. Butter is more on the swanky side, and I find it less relaxing - something that is important to me on a first date. (Or at least it was, until I married my husband!)

        1. Butter has good food and an interesting atmosphere and delicious food but the service is deplorable. It's bad enough that the waitstaff is to busy preening to serve you; I don't need the host and bartender giving me attitude, too. I'd go to Cuba.

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          1. re: JungMann

            well i had the opposite at Butter, outstanding service a real professional. The food was ok, average and expensive. I believe the only reason people go eat there is to try get into the club after

            1. re: bullseal

              i've had terrible food AND terribe servicc at Butter. I don't recommend it unless the date is a celeb obsessed scenester...

              I think Cuba is fun, but I don' think I've been there on a weekend (or a date) to have music be a concern...

              I agree with Pylos, mentioned below too.

          2. I would go back to the drawing board there are great, special places downtown. How about Perilla, Pylos (greek, great atmosphere), Hearth. Not sure what CH'ers think of Five Points, but I think the food is good and the atmosphere nice and "safe".

            1. I think Mercadito might be a decent choice as well - somewhat trendy, good drinks and intimate atmosphere. You also don't want to scare the girl off by going too intimate on a first date or too expensive.