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Do you make your own birthday dinner?

My birthday is always around Thanksgiving and it is always good timing because of the long weekend; however, planning a special night out during the holidays can be tough, Traveling beyond my city seems daunting and the restaurants in my neighborhood while always inviting don't really seem to meet my needs this year. I am leaning towards making my own birthday dinner. While there are a slew (sp?) of restaurants that cook better than I do, I feel like fussing over a meal designed for me by me and having DH pick up some decadent dessert. Have I gone too far down the road of the self absorbed or are there others who pursue a self created happy birthday?

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  1. I personally don't want to, I would get pouty if I had to make my own birthday dinner, but if you want to, I would say that is your choice (it is your birthday!). I'm sure that it would take the pressure off of your husband... I say go for it! Your taking control to make sure your birthday is everything that you want it to be rather than waiting around for someone else to do it, that way you won't be disappointed.

    1. It's your birthday. You do what you want. I actually think that it is kind of cool. It's not self-absorbed. IMO it's kind of practical too. You save money (which most people love to do... especially during holiday season) and you may get more than one meal out of it. Go for it and have a wonderful birthday.

      1. you've actually given me a slight revelation.....

        first off, i did "cook" for my own birthday. but this was primarily because i hosted a birthday party for my sister and myself as also a pre-event for an evening out (see black menu for white night post on the cooking board) and loved the whole menu creation and testing process.

        my boyfriends birthday is coming up and i decided to take him to one of his favourite but ridiculously expensive restaurants in the city. you're really making me reconsider this. he loooooooves to cook and the menu creation process is something he takes great joy in. access to a good kitchen is something that is hard to come by for him currently and now you're making me debate stocking the fridge full up and cleaning it top to bottom to let him have at it for a whole weekend.... perhaps that'll be the christmas present.

        in my mind, birthdays are about doing what you enjoy and having your favourite people with you to do it.

        1. I pretty much always cook at home for our birthdays and anniversary - much prefer it to eating out and it seems more special to me somehow. That's probably part of the reason I never quite get the "looking for a romantic restaurant thing"!

          1. I do this all the time. My husband makes a helluva hamburger out on the grill (summer birthday) and, half the time, I'd really rather make up a big bowl of fresh guacamole and have that and a few mojitos and a burger and then go out for ice cream at someplace fancy.

            I think it's your birthday and you should be able to do what you want. Cooking is fun. What better present can someone who loves to cook get than to be able to prepare whatever meal they want to be enjoyed with friends and especially family who you don't see that often?