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Apr 18, 2007 07:32 PM

Need to order a sympathy basket.....please help

Its a good friend of my family that I need to send something to on the loss of her husband. Suggested I send nosh type foods as she likes sweets and nuts and skip the fruit basket or flowers. Theres nothing locally in their area as they live in the small town in S.Jersey where I also grew up. I did post on the Manhatten Board tonight as was thinking of having something made up by Graces Marketplace but if anyone has other suggestions/advice I would much appreciate it. TIA

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  1. Try the croissants that come overnight from Williams Somoma - such a treat!

    1. I just received a birthday basket from Zingermans... some goood stuff in there...

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      1. re: Emme

        Thanks Emme...I forgot about Zingermans, that might be another possibility. I have ordered from them in the past also and they do have good stuff. I sent their bread before which everyone seemed to really like but was just curious if you tried their sourcream cake that seems to be their #1 seller and was there anything else in your basket that I should definately include in this basket if I order from them? Thanks again and Happy B-Day to you! Hope it was a good one!

        1. re: chocolate

          Zingermans has a "bereavement box" which covers the bases pretty well:

          I've had the coffee cake and it's very good- it does stay fresh for quite a while.

          1. re: chocolate

            Sourcream Cake is great (as well as the hot cocoa and blueberry buckles cakes), and so are the brownies, cookies (my best friend went to UMich and swears by the ginger ones), spiced pecans, fleur de sel caramels, and my ex loved the choco covered figs... Or, just get the Dreambox gift pack...

        2. Many kosher delis are used to preparing platters for this type of situation. It's a Jewish custom to send full prepared meals, rather than nosh food, so that the bereaved family has one less thing to think about. If there's a deli close enough they may be able to handle it for you.

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          1. re: rockycat

            I was going to say the same thing. It's customary to send lunch or dinner or whatever. However, you know your friend so perhaps the meals are already taken care of? You might want to inquire of your friend (if she's not too grieved) or someone close to her to find out which would be more appreciated. I've also gone in with friends or groups of friends when there were a lot of people at the house to feed.

            1. re: rockycat

              The OP did say that she likes sweets and nuts. So nosh food might be a good idea for her. Also, as memory serves, she may not really be eating regular meals so getting anything at all into her tummy is probably best. Some people just cannot eat in times of sorrow.

              1. re: bryan

                That may well be true. Our point was, it seems that the grieving person may be Jewish. If so, then there are customs which she may want to take into account before sending anything.

            2. Whatever you do, don't order from FTD. The quality is truly dreadful. The recommended suppliers are excellent, as is Harry & David.

              I make a large pot of strong chicken soup -- two chickens, celery, onion, a few peppercorns and a bay leaf or two. When it's done, I discard the skin and bones, reduce the stock by 1/3, add the meat back and add salt. It seems more personal than a basket.

              1. If you can, send things that can be frozen or won't otherwise go bad quickly. When my dad passed away, we got a ton of food, but ended up tossing a bunch of cold-cut type stuff because it was going weird in the fridge.

                I am very sorry to hear about your friend's loss. You sound like a very thoughtful friend to want to send her some things.