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Does anyone have a tried and true better than sex pie recipe, there are tons of variations and my southern friend that had the recipe has moved. i think there may be pudding in it, and bananas? I really can't remember. anything would help. Thanks a bunch!

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  1. No, I have cake recipes from my grandmother's best cookbook... interested in those?

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    1. re: melissad

      I would love it. Have you tried it? What is your take on it?

    2. I actually got a "Better than sex cake" from an acquaintance a long time ago. Here's what it says:

      1c flour
      1 stick margarine, softened
      1/2c chopped nuts

      Blend together well and press into bottom of 13"x9"x2" pan. Bake at 375 degrees for 5-10minutes

      2nd layer
      1c Cool Whip (get 12oz container)
      1c powdered sugar
      1 package cream cheese (8oz)

      Mix thoroughly and spread on crust

      3rd layer
      2 packages instant pudding, any flavor (3-1/2 oz each)
      3 cups milk

      Mix thoroughly and pour onto first two layers. Chill.

      4th layer
      Top with remaining Cool Whip and more nuts as desired.

      I hope this gives you some direction. Good luck!

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      1. re: brekkie_fan

        This is similar to one I found online, I think that there must be something to it since it has popped up in several different places. Thanks!

        1. re: daintysharky

          no problemo. glad my recipe is consistent with what you've been finding.

        2. re: brekkie_fan

          My grandmother used to make this with lemon pudding and call it "Lemon Surprise"; chocolate pudding would make it "Chocolate Surprise"...what a surprise she'd have if she knew what it's going by these days!!! I don't think I ever heard her say the word sex!

          1. re: brekkie_fan

            wow. I saw this and I had to reply...I had totally forgotten about this cake/pie. when I was young, we knew a woman, who we called Miss Bernice and she made this exact same recipe as you post up above, but she called it a pie. she would make it with Jello chocolate pudding, large amounts of Cool Whip and tons of pecans. my brother, sister and I would crack the pecans for her. thanks for posting this and reminding me of her and her smile.

            1. re: austx03

              ya know, i think it's time to make some cake :)

          2. Now, do you mean a specific kind of pie that involves bananas and so forth? Or just a pie that is, well, better than sex?

            My pies are pretty up there, but I'm a fruit pie purist. Apple, peach, blackberry, blueberry, huckleberry. Let me know if you want a recipe.

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            1. re: seattledebs

              This is a specific pie, also sometimes referred in more religious circles as better than robert redford pie. If you care to share, I would always credit you when I make your blueberry pie.

            2. I found quite a few quickly on a Google search, and they all seem to basically be the same, with pudding - but no bananas. You could easily add them, of course. Anyhow, here's a link to one of the recipes I found

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              1. re: luv2bake

                I am comparing this recipe you linked to to the one above they are very similar, I am going to make a hybrid of the two. Thank you so very much! the dinner party is saved and the birthday boy will be pleased.

                That is a great site recipe source!!!! I hadn't used it.

                1. re: daintysharky

                  It's just one of a number of good recipe sites that I refer to often.

              2. I wasn't going to post this since you specifically said pie, but it is good, and its title was Better Than Sex Cake. It was given to me by a friend about 15 - 20 years ago. It's fast & easy (if you use a cake mix), and everyone used to request the recipe. I haven't made it in years since I am pretty much a scratch baker, but it is good in a pinch, especially if you need your kids or other less-experienced baker to make the dessert for you! :)

                German chocolate cake, baked according to directions, in 9x13 pan.
                1 can sweetened condensed milk
                1 jar caramel topping
                1 large container non-dairy whipped topping
                3-4 chocolate-covered toffee bars
                After you cool the cake, poke holes in it with the handle of a wooden spoon. Pour the milk into the holes. Over this, pour the caramel topping. Spread the container of whipped topping over all. Crumble the candy bars and sprinkle over the top. Refrigerate for several hours.

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                1. re: luv2bake

                  Maybe I will bake both!! It will be a 'better than sex off'.

                  They both do seem quite simple, and I normally would choose something so elaborate a few hours into the process I want to shoot myself. So this could be fun. Everyone has been so helpful

                  THANX A MILLION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

                  1. re: luv2bake

                    I have this recipe, but it's called Candy Bar cake. It has caused friends at parties to actually fight over taking home the leftovers. I'm not a coolwhip fan, but this is SO good!

                  2. Hah!
                    My mom makes a dessert called "the next best thing to Robert Redford" in either a chocolate or lemon version. Yummy indeed. I can provide the recipe if you are interested. Looks a lot like brekkie fan's above.


                    1. The same dessert is called sex in a pan. The version I've had the most often has graham cracker crumbs, banana pudding and chocolate pudding in it. I read somewhere that it was originally called six in a pan, because of the six ingredients, but somewhere along the way the name changed to it's current name.
                      67 versions are at cooks.com:


                      1. I've made this before, and it's shamefully good. This is sort of a family recipe.

                        1 box Duncan Hines yellow cake mix
                        1 cup sugar
                        1 can crushed pineapple
                        2 cups milk
                        1 package vanilla instant pudding
                        1 package cream cheese
                        1 tub Cool Whip
                        maraschino cherries
                        chopped pecans

                        Make the yellow cake with milk instead of water. Let cool completely. Take 1 cup sugar and boil with 1 can crushed pineapple for 2 minutes. Let cool completely. Poke several holes in the cake and pour over pineapple mixture. Combine 2 cups milk, package of vanilla pudding mix, and softened cream cheese, spread on top of cake. Slice bananas and place on top. Add cherries and pecans. Refrigerate for 8 hours.


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                        1. re: addlepated

                          my mom made this a billion times for church potlucks. She calls it dump cake and uses cherry pie filling instead of maraschino cherries.

                        2. i don't know if this is what you wanted but in high school i remember this recipe:

                          1 graham cracker pie crust

                          1 envelope choc. pudding - set per pie recipes
                          make whipped cream out of 1 pint of heavy whipping cream (with powdered sugar to sweeten to taste)
                          add a package of cream cheese - and blend.

                          put pudding in pie filling and chill until firm. add whipped cream topping mixture on top. sprinkle with shaved chocolate or cocoa powder.

                          this is really actually EXTREMELY yummy!!

                          1. The original "better than sex" pie was created by the doyenne of American desserts, Maida Heatter. I remember it having a candy crunch kind of crust, and a chocolate coffee filling.

                            No pudding, no bananas, nothing artificial, just pure bliss.

                            This might be a case for Uncle Phaedrus.

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                              1. re: ChowFun_derek

                                Derek, I think you got it.

                                Do you have the recipe? I can't seem to find the book. Does Mrs Heatter talk about the "better than sex part"? I wouldn't go quite that far, but it is delicious.

                                1. re: Fleur

                                  Yes..on both accounts!

                                  it is in her "Book of Great Desserts" she calls it 'Coffee Buttercrunch Pie" page 355
                                  There are many versions available on the net,,,some similar to, and some exactly like Maida's.... here is a link to one of them...


                                  1. re: ChowFun_derek

                                    what is a "pie crust mix" do you think? Should I just start with one of my own pie crust recipes and add the additional flavorings from there?

                                    1. re: DGresh

                                      Pie crust mix comes in a box and is found in the baking aisle. I know it sounds strange. Probably best not to read the ingredients. I only buy it for Coffee Toffee Pie. I don't think using a pie crust recipe would work.

                                      The pie is delicious. A friend of my family calls it the missing link between food and sex.

                                      1. re: debby

                                        I agree. I never use Pie Crust Mix in a box, except for this recipe. I have tried it with home made crust, and it never comes out as delicious.

                            1. Paula Deen has Not your Mothers Banana Pudding, and a better than sex cake I believe. Check out food network, and do a search.

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                              1. re: mcel215

                                The cake is here ("Is it really better than sex? cake")

                                "Not yo' mama's banana pudding"

                              2. Thanks Derek. That is the exact recipe, the real deal.

                                I was foolishly looking for "Better Than Sex Pie" in my Maida Heatter books, and never found it.

                                I used this basic recipe and loved it, especially the crust. I have also made the crust with Pecans or Hazelnuts. Also just filled the shell with Ice Cream and used the topping in the recipe.

                                My DH has only heard about this fabulous dessert, never actually had it. He is the real chocolate person in the family and I am planning to make it over the weekend.

                                Thanks again.

                                1. This is flaunting my culural ignorance, but I never heard of this (though we did have "BTS Brownies") and originally had the same question as seattledebs, the self-proclaimed fruit "purist". Not to hijack the thread, but seattledebs, if you're out there, do you have a master fruit pie recipe to share? Sounds like ir might be "a pie that is, well, better than sex," in a very different way!

                                  1. here is my recipe on better than sex pie

                                    1cup sugar creamed with full brick of cream cheese
                                    and fold in 32oz Cool Whip

                                    in a seperate bowl make one package of chocolate jello instant pudding
                                    (i make this first and let it set up)

                                    fill half of one graham cracker pie shell with cool whip mixture and reserve the rest for a second layer

                                    then top pie with chocolate pudding
                                    and then layer it with more cool whip mix

                                    I like to shave a little chocolate on the top

                                    its really good if you let it set up over night but you dont have to, once you taste it you wont be able to let it set up for more than an hour...LOL (Sooooooooo Goooood)


                                    PS this is also really good if you use banana flavored jello pudding and top it with thinly sliced bananas

                                    1. No pudding, no bananas, but the recipe is delicious. It comes from one of Maida Heatter'searliest books.

                                      The crust is made like a candy crunch. No one ever refuses..before, during and after :+}

                                      1. our version is a 9x13 pan of fudge brownies painted several times with Kahlua, and crumbled. Then we layer with 2 large boxes of prepared chocolate pudding mixed with a container of creamy cool whip, heath bar pieces, caramel sauce, pecans, plain cool whip and you just layer and layer. It has to sit overnight though.

                                        1. My hallmate in college made something called Sex in a Bowl, which was coffee poured over chocolate cake and then crumbled, and layered with chocolate pudding, cool whip, and crushed Heath bars. I think I might dig it out tomorrow and make some!