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Bumped at the Bar

I've noticed a disturbing trend here in Boston recently and I hope that my fellow compatriots would be able to chime in.

Three times in the past two weeks I've been eating at the bar and asked to move down a seat to make room for a couple. Twice I was by myself, another time with a DC, once asked by the staff and the other two by the couple that wanted to sit.

Is this not totally inappropriate and down-right rude? Even if I was only having a drink I would be a little put-out but when I'm actually eating a meal? What happened to couples getting tables? I've not noticed this in other cities or remember it from past history. These were fairly nice places, (Chez Henri for one) and while I have offered to slide down before I have not once been requested to do so before lately. Am I overreacting or do I have more than a right to say "no, sorry" and not be dick because of it?

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  1. I have no problem with it, particularly in a tiny place like CH.

    I will move for others is a second, and don't hesitate to ask if I am in the opposite situation either.

    Happy customers and a good vibe for all.

    1. I think you're overreacting. What does it hurt to slide down one seat? I do it all the time at Dali (and I almost always eat at the bar unless it's more than 3 people in my party), and people you are moving for are usually very appreciative, as is the Dali staff. You've just opened up another "bar two-top" for the restaurant vs. leaving one of them standing. Perhaps by moving, the staff might thank you with a drink or a comp'ed dessert. Perhaps not, but isn't it just a nice thing to do for another dining couple?

      I do have to say that my DCs and I usually try and choose seats at the bar (when we have a choice of several in a row) whereby we won't have to move. For instance, if there are 5 seats in a row available, we'll chose the end two vs. picking the 4th seat, leaving 3 and 1 free.

      I'm curious - why would you NOT want to do it? Just because you got there first?

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        1. So, you're the guy that I am standing behind, spilling my drinks on every time that I have to reach over because you can't move over a seat. It's sooo hard to move that place setting a couple of inches.

          1. wicked over reacting. i will always move down and have frequently been rewarded with free drinks. seems like a no-brainer to me.