What qualities should an ideal server possess?
I happen to like servers that are direct, honest in their opinions when asked with awesome timing skills nothing is more annoying than servers who are very phony. . .friendliness doesnt necessarily mean good service to me!
in a restaurant where you are familiar with the menu an ideal waiter will say "may i take your order","espresso or regular" and "thank you" after you give him the paid check back, no more.of course your water glass is filled, wine is poured, etc. dessert she/he will bring out as many desserts as number of people in a platter with plates for everyone to sample.
Compensation considerably more than minimum wage would help. And consistent tipping from 15% to 20% for good service would be a good start.