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yum Dec 1, 2006 03:54 AM

going to Providence soon with family and want to all get the 9course but last time it was way too much food.. was wondering if it's tacky to share it with my mom or ask to split it.. what to do?

  1. Pei Dec 2, 2006 08:06 AM

    I don't know about providence, but Opus didn't mind at all when my friend and I wanted to share the 6 course menu. We asked if we each got the 3 courses whether we'd get the identical dishes, and were told yes. We then asked if we could share the 6 course instead just to try 6 different things. We were warned that the portions would be very small, we said we didn't mind, and we were graciously served and shared.

    Of course, we were sitting side by side at the bar so sharing was very easy. But you're going with your mom so it's not like there will be any weirdness about eating off the same plate.

    1. Eat_Nopal Dec 1, 2006 04:25 AM

      You could use the old trick... get one tasting menu for one person & then two courses for the other person... usually they will fill in the missing courses for your second person.

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        hrhboo Dec 1, 2006 04:31 AM

        Usually the whole table has to get the tasting menu. There are very few places that allow only part of the party to do a tasting, probably for this very reason.

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          alison Dec 1, 2006 04:32 AM

          Usually a tasting menu requires the whole table participate.

          My question to you is why "trick " a perfectly nice & accomodating restaurant ?

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            Eat_Nopal Dec 1, 2006 03:18 PM

            No, most nice restaurants in L.A. will accomodate when one person is getting the tasting menu & another doesn't. In reality they are going to adjust the portion sizes... which I (and it sounds like you) wouldn't mind.

            The thing to note, is that even if you do that & get a couple half bottles of wine - your bill is going to be higher than average for L.A. (because people there tend to just get one entree & a dessert)

            1. re: Eat_Nopal
              hrhboo Dec 1, 2006 05:43 PM

              That just isn't true. In almost every high-end restaurant in LA (where the thread originated), the entire table is required to participate in a tasting. Opus is the one exception that comes to mind.

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                KTinNYC Dec 1, 2006 06:09 PM

                I don't know about LA but in NYC all at the table must participate in the tasting menu. I don't know of any exceptions.

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                  hrhboo Dec 1, 2006 07:45 PM

                  That's almost always the case in LA too. I can't think what places Eat Nopal is referring to.

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                  Eat_Nopal Dec 2, 2006 02:07 PM

                  These come to mind....

                  Joe's
                  Inn of the Seventh Ray
                  Matsuhisa
                  Chinois

                  The little french place on Wilshire near 15th or so.

                  Its a time honored, gracious tradition... only a tacky, penny pinching place would not honor that.

                  1. re: Eat_Nopal
                    hrhboo Dec 2, 2006 05:29 PM

                    Joe's does require the participation of the whole table. I haven't eaten at the others. It isn't "tacky, penny pinching" that most upscale restaurants insist that everyone participate. What IS "tacky, penny pinching" is trying to "trick" a restaurant into giving you more food than you are willing to pay for.

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                      LAfoodfiend Dec 2, 2006 05:39 PM

                      Finally someone said it! I've been in horrified shock since reading that post. Why try to trick a restaurant like that? I can't believe anyone would attempt such a thing, and then try to encourage others to do so too!

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                      LAfoodfiend Dec 3, 2006 04:00 PM

                      Actually, it has very little to do with penny-pinching. The reason that everybody at the table must do the tasting is to alleviate awkwardness when timing the courses. If one person is having 6 courses while the other is having 2, then there are going to be times when one person has a plate in front of them while the other does not. This might be fine if the diners know each other well but it hardly holds up the traditions of fine dining, where courses are served to each diner in unison, and everybody starts and ends the meal at the same time. Serving each person at a separate time is clumsy, intrusive and yes, tacky.

                      What is the "time-honored gracious tradition" you speak of? It is unclear from your post.

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              alison Dec 1, 2006 04:23 AM

              Why not just get the 5 course or do what we do : ask Michael to do as many courses as you think you can handle : 3 fish , 1 meat, no duck, etc.
              He will usually accomodate whatever you want & is very flexible.
              Just leave room for dessert ; Adrian is a genius who complements Michael's food so well !

              1. hrhboo Dec 1, 2006 04:17 AM

                Not silly at all, in fact I asked this recently myself!

                The general consensus was to just eat what you can and leave the rest. I wish sharing was cool, but it isn't in most places unfortunately.

                By the way, not to get personal but do you generally have a big appetite? I am planning to do the tasting menu at Providence soon and was wondering if 9 courses would be too much for me (I'm a small female). I want to try as many things as possible and I don't mind leaving food on my plate but it sometimes seems so wasteful.

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                  yum Dec 2, 2006 03:32 AM

                  i try not to have a big appetite =p being a female myself, last time we had the 9 courses it was ALOT of food.. the portions were bigger than i exected. but dELICIOUS and i love sweets so i tried to save room for dessert. it's definately worth it!
                  i hate leaving food too.. wish you can doggy bag it but now that's TACKY

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                    hrhboo Dec 2, 2006 05:33 PM

                    I was planning to have the Chef's tasting (12+ courses) because it's been raved about so often on this board, but that's a definite case of my eyes being bigger than my stomach. I'll probably stick with the 9 and hope for the best!

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                      yum Dec 3, 2006 04:13 AM

                      the 9 is IMO perfect..this time i will take pictures!

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