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How do I provide a kosher meal for my fiance's dad at my wedding? [moved topic from Los Angeles board]

My fiance's dad keeps kosher, and I would like to serve him a kosher meal at our wedding (the rest of the reception food -- at the City Club -- will not be kosher). Dad is definitely a chowhound.
Is this even possible?

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  1. Have you talked to the manager of the venue? I have to think that this is not an uncommon concern.

    1. Try to contact a local Orthodox Synagogue, which may be able to point you to a kosher caterer or restaurant that can provide the meal. Plan on serving him with plastic utensils that are brand new. The unopened box of utensils is even the best way to assure him that they are "kosher".

      Plan on cold dairy meal or a cold meat meal, as the kitchen will not be "kosher-enough" to heat the food in the ovens. (Although some people think that by triple wrapping in aluminium foil is an acceptable barrier).

      You must ask your future father-in-law how "kosher" the meal needs to be.

      1. Plastic utensils? Yuck. Please don't. you just need utensils and plates that have not been used before, and order a meal from a local kosher restaurant. Otherwise, you may be able to order one meal complete with a setting from a kosher caterer, but all that troube for one setting will probably cost you wayyyyyy more than if you choose the first option.

        1. Check out the Kosher board. There are a few recommendations of kosher restaurants. I am sure that most of them can package a meal to go. I was just at a wedding and this came up. The caterer gave new utensils and plates to the place that made the meals so everyone had the same place settings.

          1. I agree with pikawicca--just ask the manager or whoever is coordinating your catering at the site. Bliebman2 is also on target--ask your dad how kosher it needs to be...some people will be concerned about the utensils, the oven it was cooked in, etc., but there are also plenty of people who consider themselves to be keeping kosher who will not care about these things. Or they may be comfortable with some sort of middleground, such as the tinfoil wrap. So ask Dad before going to a lot of trouble. Even before contacting the manager.

            1. If you're concerned about the food part, have the caterer make a stop at T.J's they've plenty of Kosher meat options these days.

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              1. re: Kitchen Queen

                Right, they have a lot of kosher meat -- but what if they cook it in a pan that was used for cheese, in an oven that once roasted a whole pig, and turned it with forks that flipped shrimp?

                Bliebman2 has the right idea -- find out how kosher "kosher" is. If it's "please don't mix meat and dairy, and no pork or shellfish", that may be easy. If it's "it has to come out of a kashered oven" then you may have trouble.

              2. What city are you in? If it's a relatively major city, there should be a kosher caterer able to provide a meal option, even if "it has to come out of a kashered oven."

                1. I know a number of the kosher restaurants in LA - Pat's comes to mind that will provide carryout food - and Pat's is one of the best kowher restaurants in LA

                  1. Thanks everyone. Based on your helpful suggestions, I've contacted the reception site and am waiting to hear back from them. Pat's is a good option just in case they don't work with someone regularly.
                    I've also talked to my future-father in law. I know that he actually has two kitchens in his home to separate meat and dairy. I think he's trying to be nice and accommodating (even to the point that he's said that vegetarian options will be fine). I would, however, like to do my best to make him comfortable (especially since I live in a place where it's feasible) and you all have been tremendously helpful.

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                    1. re: mycatlovespopcorn

                      Personally, I keep kosher but eat vegetarian out, and I really, really prefer vegetarian food to a prepackaged kosher meal. 99% of the time a vegetarian meal from a regular caterer is better than a premade, packaged, separate kosher meal (when it's not a full kosher event). A kosher meal also makes me feel hugely guilty that the couple went to so much trouble. Plus, with a vegetarian meal, I can enjoy the same salad and dessert as everyone else (usually). Thank you.

                    2. you might also want to contact kosher-on-wheels. i know they provided my elementary school class with food on a trip to orange county (so pretty far out:) ) many years ago. good luck!


                      1. Feed Me and chuck are correct about the food and the dinnereware. A good kosher restaurant like Pat's or La Gondola will absolutely be able to help you. Explain the situation and they'll prepare a meal and double-wrap it in foil (for oven reheating) or plastic (for microwave). Salad, entree, dessert, whatever you like.

                        Then you just tell the venue to heat the meal but NOT REMOVE THE WRAPPING. They should bring it out still wrapped and your father-in-law will remove the wrapping himself. (That verifies that the kosher status of the food was not compromised.)

                        Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!