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Dessert and meal ordering

The last couple times at decent/nicer restaurants I've started basing my dinner selection based on what dessert I am going to be having. A couple times I've asked to see the dessert menu at the start of the meal. Get a funny look from the waiter but it comes and I sort it all out.

Anyone else think like this? Or act on it?

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  1. As a waitress, I can attest that it's happened a few times but is a bit rare. I love dessert though, so I do understand it, and you should never get a funny look from any waiter for such a harmless request...!

    1. Interesting idea. I'm usually not hungry enough to eat dessert in a restaurant, but I like the idea of seeing the dessert menu first so I know if I should plan ahead! We do that all of the time when it comes to appetizers and entrees (i.e. see three great appetizers, so we order those and split one entree). Why not apply it to desserts. Nice idea.

      1. Some desserts e.g. souffles, will need additional time if they're made to order. Most places with items like these will often advise pre-ordering them with the rest of the meal. Would be useful to look at the rest of the desserts at the start of the meal to decide.

        1. I have actually eaten my meal backwards before by ordering dessert first, then the main and appetizer last. I'm not a big eater and if there's a dessert I really want (I have a horrible sweet tooth!), I will definitely start there so I don't miss out ;-)

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          1. re: fickle

            Haha - I remember when one woman at a table I was serving demanded a bread pudding as her dinner. She was also having a key lime martini...and her three other guests were doing appetizers + entrees + wine. Whatever makes the customer happy...

          2. Oh, I often like to know the dessert menu up front. Many times because I'm choosing between having an appetizer OR dessert; not quite hungry enough for all three courses.

            But other times it's nice for the dessert menu to be a surprise, it's like you're getting an extra dining experience including the fun of perusing, deciding, and ordering.

            1. I thought I was the only person who ever did this, and I usually do get odd looks! I do find that some restaurants don't put a lot of effort into desserts (that's just the way it goes sometimes), and my hope is that people like us who ask to see the dessert menu first may help chefs/restaurant owners realize that having good desserts is as important as having good "savory" food.

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              1. re: Non Cognomina

                I agree! My favorite part of a meal is often dessert (I always have room for dessert!) But, I am often very disappointed by dessert menus... one of my favorite restaurants really has very inventive apps, entrees, and even amuse bouche, but the desserts never live up to the rest of the menu. It's really too bad, because to me, if I were a chef, I think I would use desserts to really do something wild and exciting! I am so sick and tired of seeing creme brulee and molten chocolate cake on the menu!

              2. Hurrah for the desserters!

                I don't know if I would eat the dessert first but it's not a bad idea. I've gone for dessert tasting menus and then gone out for dinner afterwards.

                I hope the pastry/dessert chefs find out that we give as much attention to their creations as the rest of the menu.

                1. I don't think it's a bad idea at all. My dad, only 1/2 jokingly, says "FIRST, what do you have for dessert <wink wink>???" when the server comes over. I think he uses it to also gauge how well they might prepare certain things. LOL - like some people go right to the restroom to determine cleanliness - he goes to the dessert to determine food quality.