crispy batter buffalo wings
From your post, it isn't clear to me if you are trying to make "buffalo wings" or if you want crispy battered chicken wings.
If you want buffalo wings, I like Frank's Red Hot Buffalo Wing sauce.
If you want crispy battered chicken wings, try a fried chicken recipe.
I like no coating seasoned chicken wings. With the right amount of heat and time, the skin crisps up. I cook them in the oven, ~325 until the skin has blistered.
Traditional "hot wings" are just deep fried wings. Or tossed in flour for a little bit more crunch.
375 degree oil for 12 minutes or so is the magic combination of heat and time. Use your thermometer to check the temp... if it's too low they'll be soggy and seeped with oil.
Now if you're looking for something with a noticeable battered outside (asian style wings, etc...
Make batter using a 1:1 mixture of cornstarch and flour, plus an egg and some ice cold water.
This will give you a nice puffy, crispy coating for your wings. Toss them fresh from the frier into a wok with a nice salt/pepper combination and some slices of jalepeno for salt and pepper wings, or toss them lightly with the following sauce:
equal parts brown sugar and soy sauce
reduce slightly over low heat with sliced onion and red bell pepper.
The key is keeping the oil temp from dropping and since you probably don't have a deep fryer like the restaurants it's often a difficult task. I've had great success by using a extra deep cast iron (chicken frying) pan that keeps the oil from losing it's heat and still let's me fry 8 -10 wings at once. A friend uses one of these small home style deep fryers and it works well but doesn't cook very many at once. After taking the wings out of the oil you need to place on a paper bag. For the hot sauce use durkees that you keep warm on the stove and melted clarified butter that you add in equel amts (about 1/3 cup ea.) to a bowl with a lid and add the wings and shake. Don't mix the hot sauce and butter ahead of time (thats the real secret to great crispy wings)
Pretty much all of these posts are correct.
Doing a batter is a lot of work to do right, and you really don't need it. Don't use batter, just fry the suckers.
If you do use batter, then use corn meal and add a little flour, not the other way around.
Once the texture is what you want, the sauce is the other thing. This is open to debate by person. General rule is to use butter to tone down the heat and add some body, use vinegar to sharpen and uptone the heat.
Lastly, the heat/temp. Keep it hot but not overly hot. The cast iron helps, and I keep mine just less than medium, but within 10 minutes it's ready to go for the whole time. Put them in with the intent only to turn once, wait till they bob for a minute, turn, wait almost as long, and you're ready to dunk into sauce.
For variation, you can bake/broil for nearly any step (fry for texture, bake for coating; bake for texture, soak for coating; etc).