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Feb 22, 2004 04:37 PM

Barbeque help

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I am hosting a barbeque for some friends in a few weeks. One of my friends 'keeps kosher'. Being a Catholic girl from Milwaukee I don't know a lot about what that entails. Will she be able to eat any of the food I am planning to prepare? I want her to feel welcome and at ease. I'm planning on grilling chicken and veggies. Any suggestions?

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    Vinnie Vidimangi

    Imagine that she is on some sort of bizarre diet based on ideology. It would make both your friend and you more comfortable if you asked your friend to bring her own food. Your request would be gracious by obviating her having to tell you the same. At some later time you can ask her what keeping kosher entails, and perhaps she will also tell you some of the latent and unarticulated health and moral considerations behind "kosher".

    Once a vegetarian burst out laughing when I told her that Jews are only permitted to eat the front half of the cow; the cute waitress in the Indian restaurant I told that Jews were on their way to becoming Hindu.


    1. Only your friend can tell you what she is willing to eat, because only your friend knows what "keeping kosher" means to her. At one extreme, she might be willing to eat your grilled vegetables or even a slab of grilled fish (e.g., tuna or salmon). At the other extreme, she might only be willing to eat take-out food from a kosher place, using only disposable plates, cups and cutlery. (Maybe some fruit too, but not if you slice it with your regular knife.)

      If your friend tends towards more restrictive observance, and if you buy takeout for her, do NOT unwrap the food from the sealed packaging it came in; your friend will want to do it herself. If the food has to be heated (in your microwave, for example), that raises another set of issues to consider. So you really will have to discuss with her what will work. It would be a shame if you tried your best on her behalf, but ended up doing something unacceptable nonetheless. She'd have to refuse, and then you'd both feel awful about it.

      And now for an amusing anecdote. Many years ago, my wife visited her Catholic friend on Long Island. The friend's mother, knowing that my wife kept kosher, wanted to be as accommodating as possible, so she went out and bought the chicken she was cooking/serving that day from Waldbaum's supermarket, assuming that anything from such a Jewish-sounding store had to be kosher. Alas.

      1. tell your friend to bring her own food over.
        if she is really KOSHER she will not eat off of your dishes,utensils or glasses.
        she will not cook her food on a non kosher grill,so you have two choices,hire a RABBI to kosher all your stuff or she can not eat, or she can bring all her own stuff{dishes and food}

        1. Can anyone kinda give me a quick run down on how to barbeque a brisket on a pit. What steps do you need to take in order to prepare it.

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          1. re: Mac

            Hiya Mac-

            You might want to repost this on General Topics where lots of Chowhounds who are pitmasters hang out. You will likely get some input on various spice rubs and other techniques

            BTW the last time we barbequed a brisket we did not put anything more than a little salt on it. The key is "low and slow", put it in a smoker with just enough hot coals to maintain a temperature of about 225 degrees, with plenty of water soaked hickory chips.

            Good luck.