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dress code at Bouley?

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I have a dinner date there in 2 weeks and have never been before. Are jackets required? If not, is it business casual? Would i feel out of place wearing nice pants and stylish sneakers? Thanks.

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  1. Jacket is required in the dining room. I believe you would be quite out of place in any kind of sneakers. It's just about the most formal restaurant in New York.

    Best to call the restaurant and ask them what their dress code is to avoid embarassment.

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    1. re: Nina W.

      Roger that. Sneakers might not quite fit in.

      1. re: Dude

        Nina's advice is right, but I would pedantically point out that it's not remotely as formal as Le Cirque (ties obligatory).

        1. re: Wilfrid

          The official dress code is "jackets preferred."

          I certainly wouldn't go without a jacket, but a tie would be optional, depending on the time when you go, the circumstances of your date, etc. Sneakers would definitely be a bad idea.

          I have to agree that Bouley is far from the most formal restaurant in New York. There are plenty of places where jackets and even ties are required.

          1. re: Caseophile

            I feel comfortable with a jacket and no a tie at Bouley, where, as Caseophile pointed out, jacket is only "preferred" by the restaurant. I do feel uncomfortable, though, without a tie at restaurants, such as Atelier, where jacket is required, but a tie is not. I didn't wear a tie to Chanterelle the other night, but cannot remember if I felt uncomfortable or not.

            1. re: Amsterdam

              I've found it a little difficult to discern this as well...I'm comfortable at JG with a jacket only but I imagine that at ADNY I'd want a tie...I wonder about Per Se?

              1. re: Nathan

                I haven't been to Per Se, but to Ducasse and Jean Georges, I wear a tie. To be safe, I always one up the restaurant. So, if the restaurant says "jacket preferred," I wear a jacket; if it says, "jacket required," I wear a tie; the few restaurants that require jacket and tie (21, Le Cirque) are easier because you know what everyone else will be wearing. There was an article in the Times some time ago chronicling a man who went around under-dressed to restaurants with a dress code to see how the management would respond.

            2. re: Caseophile

              Where are jackets and ties required in NYC these days?

              Besides Le Cirque, as Wilfrid points out...

              1. re: Caseophile

                I was at Bouley for dinner two weeks ago and most of the room was in jeans - in fact two male dining companions felt overdressed in their jackets and tie . . . but maybe that was a Tribeca Film Festival oddity . . .

        2. so i take it jeans would also be a no-no?

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          1. re: emma

            Bouley is a dressy, classy place. I wouldn't feel comfortable in jeans there, but women can wear jeans in places where men can't.

            1. re: Dude
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              brooklynmonkey

              There were men wearing jeans when I was there a few weeks ago. They were wearing jackets, too, though. Some men can pull off that look. Many cannot.

              1. re: Dude

                I was at Bouley for dinner two weeks ago and most of the room was in jeans - in fact two male dining companions felt overdressed in their jackets and tie . . . but maybe that was a Tribeca Film Festival oddity . . .

            2. I go there quite often for brunch on weekends, and it's relatively casual.

              That being said, Bouley's is arguably one of the best restaurants in New York. That includes food, decor, service, elegance, and class. It would probably add to your meal experience and impress your date to reflect those qualities.

              1. I go there quite often for brunch on weekends, and it's relatively casual.

                That being said, Bouley's is arguably one of the best restaurants in New York. That includes food, decor, service, elegance, and class. It would probably add to your meal experience and impress your date to reflect those qualities.

                1. Looking at the repsonses, a fair amount seem to be obervations or comparisons, which answer the questions. I'm curious about opinions. What do you consider appropriate or right for the situation. You're going to spend a lot of money on great food in an elegant setting, how should you be dressed for it? Would you wear shorts, t-shirt and sneakers if allowed?

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                  1. re: ChowDown
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                    Boneywasawarriorwayayix

                    I think the issue is simply: What rule does the place itself make?

                    If I am dressed appropriately for the place in the eyes of the staff and management, then I am dressed appropriately, I believe.

                    1. re: ChowDown

                      This has been discussed to death at least a couple of times before. If you want to talk about this, it should be on the Not About Food board.