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grimme@drbcom.com

I am intrested in information on what i can
expect if I "come out". How do I tell my parents? What
can I expect from my "first" encounter?

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  1. You can expect various reactions, from approval
    to disgust. But this is a food dicussion group,
    so our interests usually stop at the waist-line
    unless you are clever enough to muse on the
    relationship between food and sex.

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    1. re: olderman
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      jonathan gold

      Don't be so hasty: he could mean coming out
      as a chowhound: ``Mom...Dad...I've discovered
      I'm not really attracted to ... the Red Lobster
      any more. I find myself eating squab more and
      more often, and ... I take three trains when
      I get those urges to...to pick up a marble rye.

      1. re: jonathan gold
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        Frank Language

        My parents took it pretty hard when I told them I
        didn't like Wonder Bread anymore...and even [gasp] that
        I didn't share their taste in food. Nut they found
        strength in a support group for parents of people like
        me.

        1. re: Frank Language

          At first my entire family watched me with complete disgust when I began to eat butter instead of margerine. Now my father has come around to the point of spreading butter on tiny oyster crackers. My mother, although she is accepting of me now, still sticks to margerine because she thinks it makes for a healthier lifestyle.
          E.

    2. Seriously, though, dear Mr./Ms. Grimme, you've chosen a
      very good time to think about coming out, because it's
      gay pride month/week, and there are a lot of good
      support groups hovering about. I wouldn't come out to
      your parents--especially if you live with them--until
      you feel you have the support you need from friends
      and/or a group care of, say, the Gay Community Center
      on 13th Street just west of 7th Avenue. Coming out can
      be a wonderful process--I remember it as one of the
      very best times of my life. But it is a process, not
      just "ta-da!'' Feel free to e-mail me at
      gourmetguy@aol.com if you feel you need more info or
      advice.

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      1. re: TomS.
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        Frank Language

        Gourmet Guy writes: "I wouldn't come out to your
        parents--especially if you live with them--until you
        feel you have the support you need from friends and/or
        a group care of, say, the Gay Community Center on 13th
        Street just west of 7th Avenue."

        What restaurants can you recommend around there anyway?

        1. re: Frank Language

          Dear Beth @ Frank Language:
          Sure. There are about fifty decent restaurants within
          walking distance of the Gay Community Center. Some
          of my favorites:

          Cafe de Bruxelles on Greenwich Avenue near Jane St. has
          awesome mussels (especially those in the cream/Pernod
          sauce) and terrific frites.

          John's Pizzeria down on Bleecker still makes some of
          the best pizza in the world; certainly it stands up to
          the newer competition in town.

          Florent is very big fun way over on Gansevoort Street.
          Utterly reliable and sometimes excellent bistro fare.

          Everyone's waiting for Balducci's to open their cafe on
          Tenth Street & 6th Ave. But I gather we have to wait
          until September for Ecce Panis to open across the
          street. I've never had better bread in my life.

          Bye for now, and bon appetit!

          1. re: Frank Language

            "What restaurants can you recommend around there
            anyway?"

            hee hee...you guys are awesome. I may never nuke an
            off-topic message again, since you've all proved so
            incredibly adept at turning the most ungermane
            discussion back to food...
            Ciao