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Unscientific Survey #2-Do you do this?

dstultz Mar 23, 2002 09:17 AM

When going out to eat, the hubby and I have an unwritten rule: never order the same thing. He shares a bite or two of what he orders, I do the same, and more of the menu is sampled. One will get the yummy-sounding salad, while the other gets the rich and comfortable soup. One gets fish, while the other gets meat. One gets chocolate, while the other gets fresh berries. It is a way for us to indulge our passions. How many other chowhounds out there do this, too?


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    SisterT Mar 26, 2002 02:03 PM

    One would think (better yet hope) that everyone does this, my fiance and I do. I have sadly seen or overheard couples/diners "have what they're having". If it's your favorite dish and you're in the mood for it, that's OK by me; but to order the same item to be safe is just silly.

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      Bob Mar 26, 2002 12:54 PM

      My wife has an unwritten rule: If she likes what she ordered, I can't have any. But if she doesn't like it, she gets mine. She's not a chowhound, but I love her anyway.

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      1. re: Bob
        C. Fox Mar 26, 2002 04:59 PM

        Hey, at least she orders things she MAY not like. That's a step in the right direction, no?

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          Bob Mar 27, 2002 12:43 PM

          Good point. And I get to try things that I wouldn't have thought of to order, which has possibilities.

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        Ronna Mar 26, 2002 10:09 AM

        I always do this as well. But what happens when your dining partner doesn't offer a bite? What is the protocol? Do you simply ask outright for a taste? I usually offer a bite of mine and figure the other person will counter offer. But I've seen it happen where no counter offer is returned...and then what???

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        1. re: Ronna
          asun Mar 28, 2002 10:50 AM

          I usually wait until he or she goes to the bathroom or some other time I can grab a bite from the plate when they're not looking. Just kidding.

          How about a nice, "How's your dish?" with puppy like look of longing on your face? That usually works for me. But if I'm out with someone I don't really know, I guess I'm stuck with the smells.

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          asun Mar 24, 2002 09:17 PM

          My wife and I do this as well. In fact, we usually insist that our friends follow this rule as well.

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            James G Mar 23, 2002 05:46 PM

            Please don't tell me that there are a people in the world who *don't* do this?! What could be less interesting than two people ordering the same dish when eating out together?!?!?

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            1. re: James G
              ironmom Mar 23, 2002 06:21 PM

              Being forced to eat something you don't want because somebody else at the table ordered what you wanted first, maybe?

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                C. Fox Mar 23, 2002 10:53 PM

                Good point. My spouse and I share a tacit understanding about this; ordering usually involves prior negotiation between us ("What are you gonna have?" "Well, what are you gonna have?" "Well, I thought I'd get the fish and chips." "Hmmm, I was thinking of the fish and chips..." "Well, I could go with the calamari...")

                But when I'm out with other people (and not at a family-style place where we're going to share everything anyway), I guess I wouldn't hesitate to repeat someone else's order, 'cos I can't count on being able to taste from everyone's plate the way I do from his. ;->

                1. re: C. Fox
                  Bill Mar 25, 2002 08:19 AM

                  And what's with people that don't share bites? Ordering different things doesn't mean much if the person won't allow a wandering fork from across the table.

                  I wonder how many girls I horrified during my dating years by sneaking a taste of their meal???

                  1. re: Bill
                    James G Apr 4, 2002 11:42 AM

                    I was, of course, thinking about groups of friends or family where a small number of people were present. Cannot imagine everyone ordering the same dish (even weirder: people at a Chinese restaurant where more than one person orders the same thing; seems to me they do not understand the communal nature of CHinese food ordering).

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              C. Fox Mar 23, 2002 11:13 AM

              We've always done this. Never thought about it. Doesn't everybody?

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              1. re: C. Fox
                cjb Mar 23, 2002 11:55 AM


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